How to Flirt with a Pretty Girl

Ask some unique questions about her interests to learn more about her. When you start a conversation with a new girl, you’ll probably want to know more about her. Ask open-ended questions that can’t be answered with “yes” or “no” to give her a chance to talk more about her interests and personality. ^[5]

• For a new girl, you can ask, “Have you taken on any interesting challenges recently?” or “What excites you so much?”
• If you already know her, ask about what you both have in common, such as, “What did you do last weekend?” or “How did you do that historic project?” Here’s how to give her and you a chance to share.

Make eye contact as she speaks and listen attentively. Listening attentively when she speaks is a great way to let her know that you care and are a nice person. Looking her in the eye shows that you’re interested in the conversation, and don’t forget to make some affirmative comments at the appropriate times. ^[6]

• If you have something to say, add it when there’s a pause. No one likes to be interrupted while speaking!

Tell a short joke at the right time. Every girl likes a guy who is funny and can make them laugh. Think about something fun that happened recently and mention it in the conversation if you think it fits the topic. ^[7]

• For example, if two people are talking about studying, you could say, “Yesterday I received my Spanish test and saw the teacher circled the name. I was so confused, and then realized I spelled my name wrong!”
• Avoid casually telling jokes as that makes it seem like you’re trying too hard.
• Tell her story briefly so she doesn’t get bored and pay close attention to see if she’s still interested in what you have to say. If you see her staring at an unknown point, end the story and change the subject.

Make an excuse to lightly touch her if she’s comfortable. Many girls respond positively to small gestures like touching their arm, sitting close, or tucking their hair in their ears. Try making excuses to touch her so that she feels comfortable and at ease around you. ^[8]

• A good initiative is to take her hand to lead her somewhere, or sit at the same table so that your feet can touch each other.
• If she feels uncomfortable or keeps your distance, you should stop.

Remember the little things she tells you. Listening lets her know that you are kind and caring. If she says she’s nervous about a math test, wishing her luck on test day is a way of saying you’ve been thinking about her. ^[9]

• Many girls see this as a sign that you are a good boyfriend and can help you go from friends to lovers.
• When you’re just getting to know each other, you should ask her what colors she likes, when her birthday is, and what foods she likes to eat. Keep these in mind as they will surely come in handy at some point!

Meet her privately if the flirting goes well. Being alone with a pretty girl can make you nervous, but it’s one of the best ways to get to know her true personality and know if you like her or not. You can offer to work on a project with her or take her for a walk home after school. This is a way to let her know you want to spend more time with her and that you’ll get a chance to talk to her privately. However, you also need to be careful – many girls are uncomfortable meeting with the opposite sex alone, because it scares them. Even if you have good intentions and don’t go overboard without her permission, she may not know it. A good way to avoid making her uncomfortable is to meet in public. When the two of you are around, she’ll feel safer and you can talk freely (depending on where you’re going). ^[10]

• Some girls will behave differently around their friends. Meeting her privately will help you better understand her personality and whether you want to continue spending time with her.

Tease her tactfully as the two of them get closer. With a girl you already know, you may have a hard time transitioning from friendship to love. If the two of you have shared personal jokes, such as embarrassing stories or memories that you both shared, bring them up to show her how close you are. . ^[11]

• For example, you could say, “Trang, your shoes are as bright as your smile!”
• If you’re close to her, avoid talking about sensitive topics that she doesn’t like. Don’t talk about looks and intelligence.
• Avoid teasing a girl you’ve just met as it can make you appear rude. You never know well the insecurities in the hearts of others; Therefore, it is best to behave politely when you first meet someone.

Send flirty messages to start a conversation. If all goes well, just ask for her number (if it doesn’t already exist). Texting is a great way to start a conversation without having to worry about outside factors like the people around you. Once you have her number, send a text the next day by commenting on what you two talked about earlier. ^[12]

• For example, you could say, “I listened to the band you introduced yesterday. I love their debut song, your taste in music is great!”
• Try to reply to her texts in about 30 minutes, unless you’re busy. Texting someone who doesn’t often respond can be frustrating, especially when she knows you’ve read the text.
• If she doesn’t reply, wait a day or two before continuing to text. Avoid mentioning her not responding and try to start another conversation. If she still doesn’t respond, accept the fact and withdraw.
• Avoid sending multiple messages in a row. This can be overwhelming and intimidating for her. Wait for her to reply to your message before sending another one.

Boldly ask her out if all goes well. Sometimes, you have to be fierce when you love someone. If all is well and she seems eager to see you and spend time with you, make an appointment with her. She’ll appreciate your affection for her, and you’ll know if she likes you or not. ^[13]

• Consider what she likes when you ask her out, and plan what you want to do. For example, you could say, “Do you want to go see a new James Bond movie this weekend? I remember you said you liked the other episodes!”
• If she refuses, accept her decision and back out.

Be polite and kind around her. Open the door and hold her hand as you walk to show that you like her and will be nice to her. This is an effective way to show that you’re a good boyfriend and make her fall in love with you even more. ^[14]

• Kindness will let her know you’re trustworthy – a very valuable trait. Moreover, every girl likes to be treated kindly.

Be prepared for the payment when you ask her out. You should plan to pay for the first few dates if you’re the one asking, but don’t argue if she offers to pay half the cost. Maybe she just wants to show her independence and doesn’t expect your support. If you have a crush on her, it’s a nice thing to ask for payment. ^[15]

• It’s okay if you can’t afford expensive appointments. In that case, plan something less expensive, like going to a free art gallery or planning a romantic get-together at the park. That allows you to be with her without the pressure of money.