What to do when a girl doesn’t reply to your texts: 13 types of texts you can send her

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This article was co-written by Kristina Mirgorodskaya. Kristina Mirgorodskaya is a dating expert and marketing director of Amiccio, a social app in New York City that helps singles stay connected. Amiccio connects singles by hosting parties, meetups, salsa classes, bachata, basic tango, and quick dating events. With more than four years of experience, Kristina specializes in skills promotion, friendly environment, cross-cultural communication. She easily connects many people with her expertise. Kristina holds a business degree from Baruch College.

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Your conversations with her are going great; She seems to really like you. Then suddenly the girl you secretly love doesn’t respond to you anymore. It was as if she had disappeared. Now what must you do? It’s true that there are plenty of reasons for her to stay silent, but one thing is for sure: a clever follow-up text can rekindle her interest. We’re here to tell you all the best texts to get her to notice and respond to you.

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“Oh, you really know how to make that guy look forward to it…🙃”

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Why it works: Make fun of her, and you’ll make her happy. Make her laugh so she’ll be more interested in responding. Tease her a bit about taking so long to reply so she can see you in a new light. Take the extra time to come up with a creative opening sentence to make an impression. For lighthearted fun, add a compliment or self-sarcasm in the message. ^{[1] X Research Source}

“Here’s her medal: 🥇 for the slowest text reply record 😉. And you got the gold medal for someone who fell in love with a wonderful girl who ignored his messages🥇🥳”
“Lucky for you, your level of beauty is no less than the slow speed of replying to messages…🤭”
“My sister responds to my messages faster than you, when she hasn’t read the messages yet 🧐. (so cute, he just sent you a unicorn emoji )”

“I’m sure you’re going to get a really nice and long message 😉”

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Why it works: You’ll come up with a joke she can join. Joking a bit about her slow response. That way, she finds you both funny and interested in joining your conversation. Send a text that makes it sound like she has a lovely reason not to respond to you. Be creative and remember to use a sweet and playful voice.

“Oh my god 😍. You touched me so much for how much time and effort you put into giving me the perfect answer. I’m sure you like me a lot 😇”
“Oh no… do you have that virus already?? That “message butter” virus. Heard it’s hard to cure. I’m so sorry ❤️”
“I guess you KNOW I’m busy this week so I didn’t reply to your messages so you wouldn’t be distracted… You’re so thoughtful 😉”

“How can we get married if I can’t even reply to messages? 😉”

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Why it works: It’s not only fun, it’s also romantic. It might touch her that you’ve mentioned the future – even if it’s just a joke. To subtly get her attention, half-jokingly mention your future “relationship”. Make her laugh by saying something silly (but still sweet!) about how much you like her.

“Don’t worry, it’s okay. By the time we celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary, we won’t remember the time when you didn’t reply to my messages. ”
“With this kind of talk, our marriage counselors will have a hard time in the future. ”
“When we fall madly in love, I’ll blame you for ignoring my messages for a week ”

“Say it, my dear, let me stop waiting🤦🏽‍♂️” ( Speak to me )

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Why it works: quotes from movies and songs are funny and help calm people down. Make her laugh and she’ll forget why she didn’t want to answer you before. Furthermore, it’s possible that she’s just busy and is worrying about how to reply to you after a long silence. So, send a gentle, funny message to relieve stress. Mention the lyrics of a song or movie that you know she likes for extra points. For even more fun, you can change the lyrics to suit your situation.

“Wait for how long… 😋💅🏼” ( Waiting for someone )
“Hello, I’ve been standing here since afternoon. 😋” (I’ve been standing here since afternoon)
“So if you like me, please text me ” (Please text me)

“Do you think this TikTok video is funny…😂”

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Why it works: Memes are often natural and make people think of themselves. Send her a meme or link to let her know you’re thinking of her. Dig through TV shows, jokes, or memes that you know she likes. It will pave the way for her to feel free to come back and talk to you.

If you both like anime, send her a link to multiple choice questions about which character you are.
Find a funny meme about someone who grew up in a certain area if she ever talks about her hometown.
Write a sweet and natural message with the meme or link: “Hey, I just sent you this. It makes me think of you. Have a nice day 🤘🏽”

“Finally I finished knitting your hat. Do you still like it? 🧶”

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Why it works: You offer to make her happy. The girl you like might just be the busy type. Send her a text that can help her in some way, and you’ll probably get a response – even if she’s overwhelmed with work. Review text conversations between the two of you to find the things you promised to do for her, then send her a reminder message.

“You, do you still want to learn the guitar? I’m going to teach the piano again, can you be a lab rat for me? ”
“I just recomposed my record collection. Do you still want to borrow the music I talked about the other day? I already have it here 🥳”
“Hello! I can still take you to that used bookstore if you want to go. You love that little bookstore, don’t you? ”

“Hi, is everything okay?”

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Why it works: It shows you’re thoughtful and empathetic. Contact her again to make sure she’s okay. A person who is not responding to texts may be because there has been a major upheaval in their life. Let her know you care about her, and once things are less stressful, she may feel more motivated to get back in touch with you. Either way, your sweet message will “cut her heart”! ^{[2] X Trusted Sources American Psychpogical Association Go to Source}

“Hello. He didn’t mean to be curious. Just wanted to ask about you. Is everything OK?”
“Hello. Don’t worry about answering – I just want to make sure you’re okay.”
“Hello! It doesn’t matter… I just want to know if everything is okay with you. If you have something to say, I’m a good listener 🤗”

“…”

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Why it works: You remind her of the conversation but still look cool. You’re following up on an unanswered message so it’s hard to stay calm, but you can accomplish this task by sending an emoji, a question mark, or an ellipsis. Remind her that you’re interested, but don’t show it off. Surely she will be curious! ^{[3] X Research Sources}

“?”
“🤔”
You can also simply send a blank message as a reminder.

“Well, you can talk about it whenever you want…”

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Why it works: You’ll get an answer that doesn’t bother you. Mention that she hasn’t responded to you and that the ball is on her field. Use emoticons and a joke. That way, she’ll find herself needing to respond to you if she wants to continue the conversation, and you’ll still seem light, happy, and likable.

“Okay, partner. Now it’s officially my turn ”
“You hit the ball to my court: ➡️💨🎾.”
“Okay, whenever you feel like talking, come back and dance with these messages🕺🏻💃🏿”

“Long time no talk! How are you these days? 🥳”

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Why it works: Her circumstances may change. You probably didn’t know she was back with her ex after a few weeks of talking to you (hence the silence). Try talking to her again in a few weeks or months, maybe she’ll be happy to text you back. Keep a friendly tone, send short messages, and don’t send more than one at a time.

You can text: “Hi there. I just wanted to ask about you. How are you?”
If she doesn’t answer, don’t bother. Go find someone who is excited to talk to you.

“Looks like you don’t care anymore…”

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Why it works: Either way, you’ll know if she likes you. Draw boundaries with a sincere, straightforward message. Say that by this point you have to think that she doesn’t like you. You may get angry easily when you feel hurt, but you deserve to leave the conversation feeling satisfied with your actions. Plus, if you’re nice, she might contact you again later. ^{[4] X Research Sources}

Tell her you’re happy to see her: “Hi, I just wanted to let you know I enjoyed talking to you.”
Say you think her silence means she doesn’t care: “To me, communication is important. I feel you don’t like me.”
Finally, wish her well, and let her know that she can contact you later (if you want): I wish you all the best! If anything changes, I know where to find you 😇”

“I think it’s time for me to retreat. Good luck!”

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If she doesn’t care, you can just forget about it and find someone else who loves you. End this flirting while it’s still fun to show respect and be relieved by your behavior. Stay calm and don’t get angry.

If she doesn’t respond to your witty and wonderful messages, delete her number or just stop texting – whatever you feel is appropriate!

Advice

Before giving up, try calling her! Calls can refresh everything, like a blank sheet of paper – some people get lost or forget to reply to messages. Promise a fun story to encourage her to connect: “Hello! hello! Bao called here. Give me a call, I have something fun to tell you.”
Wait a few days or a week before texting her. Pick something she’s interested in or stands out to talk about instead of just asking the general “How are you?”
It’s also a good idea to pick an activity and ask her if she’d like to join you!

Warning

Never send messages like “I never reply to you”, “I always ignore your messages” or offensive statements. This is unkind and could cause her to block your number or report you as annoying.
Don’t beg. She may consider you harassment, which is illegal and could be charged with a crime in some countries.
If she doesn’t reply after you text her, it’s possible that she blocked your number or has a boyfriend (if she wasn’t in love when you first contacted her, it’s possible that she started be in a relationship with someone for a period of time after that, before you text back).

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