Innocently flirting with a guy via text message (discreet ways to flirt)

When texting a guy you’re interested in, try sending a few flirty texts to test his feelings. But if you’re not sure if he likes you or not, how do you “listen” without being too obvious? We’ve put together here a list of discreet flirty texts you can send a guy to get him down.

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Praise him

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A subtle compliment is a clever way to tell him you like him. Who doesn’t want to hear beautiful things about themselves, and your guy is no exception! Send him a short message saying that you like what he’s wearing or that he has great hair. Try texting sentences like:

“Did you just get your hair done? Your hair looks good today.”
“That navy blue shirt suits your skin so well!”
“Tuan has such a cute smile!”

Ask about himself

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Show him you care about his life and what happens to him. If you know he’s involved in an extracurricular activity, you can ask him about it; Or if you know anything about his family, ask him how they’ve been doing. The more you show that you care about him and want to know more about him, the more likely he is to start liking you. You can ask things like:

“Is your team playing well this season?”
“Did you go to the suburbs to play at the end of the weekend?”

Tease him (just a little).

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A teasing text will make him laugh and have fun with you. Don’t be afraid to tease him once in a while! Of course, don’t be too sarcastic (he may think you don’t like him), but you can joke about his “nerd” actions or a weird TV show he likes. Drop an emoji in your text just in case he thinks you’re serious. You can message:

“God, Toan has never seen the movie Twilight? Then I can’t be friends anymore!”
“Did Huy do his homework so early? I didn’t realize I was talking to a genius though!😉”

Start a flirty debate

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Choose a light, fun topic to consult with him. If the two sides choose opposite sides, the two of you will have a flirty argument over text. That way, not only will you show off your sense of humor, but you can also tease him a bit about his opinions. Try fun questions like: ^{[1] X Research Sources}

“Cricket pancakes: for or not to support?”
“Is a hot dog a kind of sandwich?”
“If you had to fight a duck the size of a horse or ten horses the size of a duck, which would you choose?”

Tell him that you dreamed of him

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Even if it’s not, you can still make him believe it’s real. He’ll be curious to know what he’s been doing in your head all night. To make him think more, be cool and don’t tell him what he did in your dreams (even if it’s just nonsense.) You can say something like: ^{[2] X Research Source}

“Last night I dreamed of you. I don’t think you want to know about that.”
“Even in my sleep I still can’t escape you! I dreamed of you last night!”
“If you keep trying to push me, I’ll tell you what you did in my dream last night.”

Talking about his latest social media post

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Check to see if he posts anything interesting on Facebook or Instagram. Remember to like first to let him know you watched, then send him a message. Not only will this show that you enjoy talking to him, but it will also show him that you keep him updated on his social media life. ^{[3] X Research Sources}

For example, if he posts a selfie at the beach, you could say, “I love the picture you posted on Facebook! Where’s the beach?”
If he posts about a movie he just saw, you could say, “How did you feel about that movie? I wanted to go see it too, but there were comments saying it was a bit boring.”

Show off your sense of humor

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The more witty you are, the more he likes to chat with you. When you two text each other, don’t be afraid to tell him something funny or describe something silly that happened to you. Flirting and laughter go hand in hand, so the more you make him laugh, the better! Try texting something like: ^{[4] X Research source}

“What is a foolish corn called? Gander!”
“The funniest thing that happened to me today! I was walking while texting when I hit a light pole. 3 people saw me!!”

Send him a meme

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Here’s another way to make him laugh. If you see something funny online that you think he likes, send him a message like “This makes me think of you!” He’ll love knowing he’s always on your mind, and the two of you might even have a fun conversation about the meme. ^{[5] X Research Sources}

Confused about what to send? No big deal! Try searching for “#meme” on Facebook or Instagram to find something that makes you giggle.

Add in some flirty emojis

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Some kissing face and heart emoji will help you tell him you like him. You don’t have to use emojis in every text, but a few emojis placed in the right place in a conversation will hint to him that you like him. When chatting, try emojis like:

“Today, Huy is absent in class! 😘”
“Hello! Anything new? 😊”
“How are things going, man? ”

Invite him to hang out with a group of friends

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This is a clever way to get him to meet you. If you’ve been talking for a while and you want to hang out with the guy outside, you can achieve this by incorporating into your group outings. Invite some of your friends and his friends out, then ask him to join you. Hopefully he’ll agree, and you can continue flirting with him when you two meet. ^{[6] X Research Source}

Try saying, “I’m going to go bowling with some friends tomorrow. Do you want to come with us?”
Or “I’m going to the movies tomorrow with my friends. Will you come along?”

Invite him to the event

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If you have a sporting event or show, ask him if he can come. This way, he will see that you want him there, and this is a good opportunity for the two of you to bond. Send him a quick text, saying that you expect him to be there. Try texting: ^{[7] X Research Source}

“I have a football match tomorrow, I hope you’ll cheer on the sidelines.”
“Do you want to come see my art show this weekend? I’ll be happy when you’re there.”

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