How To Tell She Likes You By Texting

Trying to determine a girl’s feelings can make you feel excited, confused, and even scared, especially when it’s a friend you really like. When texting with her, you can look for signs of her affection through the messages. By paying attention to what, when, and how she texts, you’ll see if she likes you or not.

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Find out the meaning of the messages

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Notice if she knows something about you. When a girl has her eye on you, she will probably learn everything about you. Whether it’s chatting with friends or monitoring your social media accounts, she’ll likely know a little about your interests and hobbies. This is a good sign that she likes you. ^{[1] X Research Source}

Even so, it could also be because she sees you as a friend and wants to learn more about you.

For example: If she asks you about a recent backpacking photo you posted on social media, you can guess that she has feelings for you.

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Pay attention to messages that create cohesion and intimacy. When someone likes you, they often try to connect with you emotionally through intimacy messages. A few familiar things that you need to watch out for is that she gives you a nickname when texting. ^{[2] X Research Sources} She may also try to connect by talking to you about your shared experiences or interests. ^{[3] X Research Sources}

Did she text you to remind you of a good time at school, or to encourage you to overcome a problem with your essay, or to talk about your upcoming test? These are signs that she’s trying to connect with you emotionally. ^{[4] X Research Sources}
However, this bond also means that she just wants to be friends with you.

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Notice the language she uses to compliment you. Compliments and thanks are both clear messages that the other person values you. These messages also indirectly reveal what makes her like or attracted to you. ^{[5] X Research Sources}

Does she compliment your looks? Your outfit? Does she thank you for helping her? You can tell a lot about what she thinks about you by noticing how much she appreciates you.
Don’t just pay attention to compliments, though. If she’s texting to share the good news with you, it means she’s thinking about you all the time. ^{[6] X Research Sources}
If she’s texting to share what makes her think of you, that’s a positive sign that you’re on her mind. ^{[7] X Research Sources}

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Pay attention to the questions and information she shares. Texting is an effective and risk-free way to help two people learn more about each other. If she reveals her interests, likes, and dislikes while texting you, keep that in mind because she wants to find out if you two have important things in common. If she asks some questions after sharing about herself, it means she wants to learn more about you. ^{[8] X Research Sources}

Answer her questions openly and don’t forget to keep the conversation going by asking her questions.
Often this is also an effective way to make friends.

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Notice how she often sends short and superficial messages. When someone likes you, they will want to share their thoughts and opinions with you and are eager to get to know you. However, if the girl you’re texting with keeps responding with brief messages that don’t have much information about her, she’s probably not interested in talking to you. ^{[9] X Research Source}

If a message confuses you, pause the texting. Try texting her the next day to see if her attitude changes. If her texts are still superficial and cold, or she doesn’t respond to texts, it’s time to stop.

Notice the nonverbal implications of her messages

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Notice how she uses emojis. When someone sends you a bunch of heart emojis, it’s a good sign that they like you. They use as many emojis as possible. By sending funny emoticons, she is trying to show you how smart and funny she is. ^{[10] X Research Source}

Some emoticons like kissing faces or kissing lips are often used to show concern for something more than friendship.

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Note the photo manipulations. If her messages often include memes, she may want to get your attention and become closer to you. By sharing memes – content that is meant to be amusing, she wants to create a happy memory between the two of you or make you laugh with something that both of you find funny. Humor is key to reaching and connecting with others; and maybe she wants to try to figure out what makes them both laugh. ^{[11] X Research Source}

Laughter and humor are important in many relationships, including friendships.

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Note when she texts you. If she texts late at night or early in the morning, she’s implicitly asserting that you’re the last person she thinks of before going to bed and the first person she thinks of when she wakes up. Maybe she wants to be on your mind all the time, too. ^{[12] X Research Source}

When someone regularly sends you “good morning” and “good night” messages, this is a good sign that the person likes you. ^{[13] X Research Source}

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Did she send you pictures? The fact that she sends you a photo of herself or a snapshot of the day’s events means she’s trying to tell you something about her world. She wants you to take an interest in her life by sharing what you’re doing and witnessing. She even asks for your opinion or advice on what she has shared with you. ^{[14] X Research Source}

Sending pictures of the day’s events is a way for someone to show that they think of you and want you involved in their life.

Ask directly

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Ask her questions and tactfully suggest activities the two of you can do together. Feel free to suggest that you two do something together that can dispel the nervousness and anxiety that comes when you want to ask her if she has feelings for you. For example, you could ask her what she’s up to tonight or this weekend. If she has some free time or doesn’t have a specific plan, you can share things you’d like to do and ask if she’d like to join in. ^{[15] X Research Source}

If she says she’s busy, she might not be interested in your offer, but that also means she’s really busy. You should try asking her when she has free time and see how she responds.
For example, you might ask, “What are you going to do this weekend?”. If she says, “I don’t have any plans yet” or “I’m going to the movies,” you can say, “I’m going to the movies too, or should we go to the movies together?”

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Indulge her will when the two of you go out on a date. If she texted about wanting to try a food at a certain restaurant, her anxiety before a test, a movie she wanted to see, or a school event like a camp or an art competition, she wanted you ask more about those things. You can continue the conversation by asking her to join you in doing things that interest her. ^{[16] X Research Source}

For example, if she says she wants to go to the new pizzeria that opened near the school, say that you do too and ask her to come with you.
If she texts you to tell you about an upcoming event at school, you’ll tell her you’re looking forward to it too and ask her to join you.
Maybe she’s texting to talk to you about the exam you’re about to face. This is a great opportunity for you to suggest studying together for the exam.

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Always be clear and straightforward. If all else doesn’t work and you’re still not sure if she likes you, you can always ask her. If she really likes you, she probably won’t deny it when you ask. Depending on how certain you feel, you can confess first and ask how she feels. ^{[17] X Research Source}

By taking the initiative, you’ve eased her burden, and she’ll appreciate it when she’s a little shy.
Prepare yourself mentally for the case that she doesn’t like you. People are complicated, and even if she’s sent you all the positive signs, she might still reject your feelings. ^{[18] X Research Sources}
No matter what her answer is, by honestly speaking your mind, you will know the relationship between the two of you.

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Believe what she says. Maybe she just hasn’t made up her mind yet or isn’t ready to go beyond flirting, but when she says she doesn’t like you, it’s the truth. If she rejects your feelings, even if you think she has “green light”, just believe her and don’t try to pursue. ^{[19] X Research Source}

When you ask her outright and she doesn’t answer, you can take it as a sign that she doesn’t like you. “Shut up and disappear” is not welcome, but it often happens if someone wants to avoid giving an answer when they feel uncomfortable, embarrassed, or guilty for rejecting someone. .

Advice

Don’t think too much about how long it takes her to reply to your texts. Maybe she’s busy or doesn’t have her phone around. Often the quality of the message is more important than the timing of the message.
If you don’t like someone who likes you, don’t just ignore them because it will hurt them. Be frank and speak your mind gently.
When a girl texts you, maybe she just wants to be friends. If you’re feeling confused analyzing her messages, calmly asking how she feels about you can help you end the waiting game.
When you message someone, it means that your interaction is recorded and can be easily shared with others. Therefore, you should save the delicate things for face-to-face meetings to keep privacy.
It’s a good sign that she gives you a nickname. If she calls you by some familiar name that she doesn’t use for anyone else, you can believe that she has a little bit of a crush on you. If she makes this clear in her texts, that’s also a good sign.

Steps

Find out the meaning of the messages

Notice the nonverbal implications of her messages

Ask directly

Advice

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