How to Send a Girl’s First Text

Whether you meet someone online or through a dating app or meet in person, texting is the stepping stone to help your relationship progress. How it begins will determine the success or failure of the relationship; So it’s important to think about what you want to message before you send it. Check out this article to learn how to send the first text and keep a fun, lively conversation with the girl you like.

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Introduce yourself again.

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Introduce yourself again so she remembers who you are and save your phone number. If you two know each other through a dating app or have met in person, just send a brief message to introduce your name. Make your messages short and friendly; Don’t write lengthy text in the first message. You can send a message with the following content: ^{[1] X Research Source}

“Hi, I’m Nam on Tinder!”
Hello! I’m Khanh and we met at the party last night.”
“Hello! I’m Son, we met the other day.”
Hello! I’m Khoa, Duc’s friend here.”

Recall the previous conversation.

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You probably chatted with her for a while when she got her number. Whether the two of you have chatted online or in person, you can still continue the previous conversation. This is an easy way to start a conversation, and you already know what topics she likes to talk about! You can say: ^{[2] X Research Source}

“It seems that last night we still haven’t finished the discussion regarding the question of whether tea is a soup or not?”
“I had to leave early last night so I didn’t hear your answer well – were you born and raised here?”

Send short messages.

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Long text messages can overwhelm her. When texting with her, you should only write content about one or two lines long. Don’t send long texts, and try not to send many messages at once without getting a response from her. You want to get her attention, but you probably don’t want to force her to read a whole novel when you open your phone to see a text message.

Ask her questions.

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Keep the conversation going with open-ended questions. These are questions that keep her from answering “yes” or “no”. When she answers, you can also tell more about yourself so you both get to know each other better. You can ask questions like: ^{[3] X Research Sources}

“Where is my hometown?”
“How many brothers and sisters do you have?”
“What do you usually like to do in your free time?”

Praise her.

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Don’t just compliment her looks. You can say that you enjoy talking to her and that you want to get to know her, or that she is great. Most girls feel special when complimented, and she will probably compliment you too! Try saying: ^{[4] X Research Sources}

“I am really interesting. I’m glad I got the chance to know you.”
“I had a good time chatting with you at the party the other day.”
“Talking to you is really comfortable.”

Talk about common interests.

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Perhaps you both enjoy watching certain shows or have similar interests. Either way, you can try asking her about it to keep the conversation interesting. What’s more, you’ll also learn more about her while chatting! If you don’t know what the two of you have in common, try looking through social media to find out what she likes to do. You might say: ^{[5] X Research Sources}

“Have you watched Vietnamese Rap season 2 yet? I can’t wait to see new episodes!”
“When did you start taking pictures? I’ve loved this sport since I was a kid!”
“Oh, you like mountain bikes too? I have never met anyone with this same hobby before.”

Ask her for advice.

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This is a way to show that you value her opinion. If she has lived in the area longer than you, you can ask her to recommend a good restaurant nearby. Or, if she enjoys reading, ask her to recommend some good books. For example: ^{[6] X Research Sources}

“Which restaurant do you usually go to in the downtown area?”
“Have you read any interesting books recently?”
“Which coffee shop do you like near here?”

Share something about yourself.

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That way, both of you can get to know each other better. When you’re texting back and forth, you should open up and answer her questions. If you want to ask her out, she’ll probably be more than happy to accept.

A simple way to help you share information is to talk about yourself, and then ask her the same thing.
For example, you could say, “My hometown is in Da Lat, but I moved to Saigon when I was 18 years old. Where’s my hometown?”
Or, “I don’t really like football, but I love basketball. Do you watch sports?”

See you in person.

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If you like her, let her know. Texting is great, but meeting her in person is the best way to get to know her. Try asking if she has time to have dinner or coffee with you. Don’t put this off too long, or she’ll think you don’t care. You might say: ^{[7] X Research Source}

“Do you have a free day next week? Let’s have coffee with me.”
“Do you have any plans for tomorrow? Would you like to have dinner with me?”
“I really enjoyed talking to you. Do you want us to meet to continue the conversation?”

Advice

You may feel nervous when you send your first message to a girl. If you’re nervous, try taking a few deep breaths to calm down before hitting send a message.

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