How to Make Your Ex-Girlfriend Come Back Soon With Text

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This article was co-written by Connell Barrett. Connell Barrett is a love consultant, founder and executive coach of Dating Transformation, a relationship consulting firm he founded in 2017 and based out of New York City. Connell advises clients based on the XRB Dating System: Authenticity, Clarity, and Expression. He is also a dating coach with the dating app The League. His work has been featured in Cosmoppitan, The Oprah Magazine and Today.

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Perhaps now you still miss your ex and just hope they come back to you soon. Luckily, texting is a great way to reconnect and make them miss you. Composing your opening message isn’t difficult, plus we’ll help you figure out what to say. Once you’ve broken the ice separating the two of you, focus on reconnecting with your ex to rekindle your feelings and trust. Continue reading the article to see what you need to text to get your ex back quickly.

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“Can you help me with this?”

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Asking for advice is a simple and easy way to start a conversation. Use what you know about your ex to ask for advice. This makes them feel proud and will probably respond quickly. Here are a few of these messages:

“Do you know any good games that I can recommend for my brother to buy as a birthday present?”
“I just bought a guitar. Do you have any advice for beginners?”
“My computer keeps restarting. Can you tell me how to fix it?”
“I’m choosing classes for next term. Which graphic design course do you think I should take?”
“I can’t reach level 58 of the Game Quest. Can you show me a way?”
“I just got a puppy! Since when did you start teaching your dog to do tricks?”

“You won’t believe what I’m doing now.”

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Use this sentence to get your ex’s attention without saying that you miss them. If they answer, say you’re doing something you’ve done together in the past or that they often recommend you try. The hope is that this opens a conversation. Here are a few examples of follow-up messages when they ask “what?”

“I’m in the escape room that you said you wanted to try a while ago.”
“I was playing arcade and trying to break your record.”
“Finally, I tried the coffee that you said was delicious.”
“I’m at the water park you used to work at.”

“This makes me think of you.”

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Let them know that you miss the little details about your relationship with your ex. Say you’ve just watched or heard something that ties into their interests, interests, or goals. The hope is that they will respond to you, and you can keep the conversation going. Here are a few ways to tell that you’re thinking of your crush:

“I just heard our song. It makes me think of you.”
“Last weekend I re-watched the Harry Potter series and couldn’t help but think of you.”
“I was watching basketball and I kept thinking about the day I watched you play.”
“I just watched a stream of your favorite game. Of course I think of you.”
“This meme makes me think of you right away.”

My family asked me about you today.”

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Take the pressure off by saying that someone has been thinking about your ex. It’s scary to admit that you miss your ex. Maybe you’re not ready to confess that you’re thinking about them. It’s okay, you just need to borrow the words of someone else like your relative or friend. Such as:

“Khanh told me that you have just been selected for the badminton team. Congratulations!”
“My friends said they saw you at the cinema last night.”
“My mother told the neighbor today about how you saved Lucy’s daughter by climbing all the way up and couldn’t get down.”

“Do you remember this?”

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Remind your ex about a good memory of the two of you. Sharing a memory is a powerful way to stir the memory and make them miss you. Pick a memory that you know your ex will like. Try texting sentences like:

“Remember the time we had a duet at the karaoke bar?”
“Remember last summer when we went swimming in the lake?”
“Do you remember the day we went camping by candlelight in the park?”
“Remember when we went to see the stars?”
“Do you remember hitting the shuttlecock outside last year?”

“This photo reminds me of my good times.”

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Send your ex a photo of the two of you together. This is also a way to remind them of the happy times when you two were together. Pick a photo that looks good on both of you so your ex knows just how attracted to you they are. Send photos of scenes like:

You two are at a dance or a wedding party.
Both are smiling at some milestone.
Two friends are playing on the lake or the beach.
Two friends go for a long walk.
You two are cuddling each other.

“Do you still like this?”

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Ask your ex about a hobby or interest to start a conversation. That way you can both break the ice and show that you remember the details of their lives. Pick something they really care about, like a band they’re a fan of or a goal in life. You can try:

“Do you still like Taylor Swift?”
“Do you still like the blueberry cream cheese on the bagel?”
“Are you still a fan of Kpop?”
“Are you still writing that novel?”

“What do you miss most in our relationship?”

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Asking open-ended questions is a great way to start a conversation. This works best if the two of you broke up amicably because your ex doesn’t seem to love you very much. Try to focus on the positive aspects of your relationship so that your ex misses you. You can ask questions like:

“What have you done since we broke up?”
“What is your favorite moment in our relationship?”
“What do you think can save our relationship?”
“When you think of me, what do you think of?”

“I sincerely apologize for what I did. What can you do to atone for that?”

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Apologize if you’ve made a mistake in the past. You can start from this if you really hurt them while you were together. Say you know you screwed up and promise that you’ll treat them better in the future. ^{[1] X Research Source} Here are a few ways to apologize:

“I’m always sorry for making you sad. I regret what I did and want to make up for it.”
“I know I made a mistake with you. I’m trying very hard to improve myself and know that things will be different than before.”
“I am so sorry for hurting you. He knew he was wrong and promised he would change. Can you give me one more chance?”

“I miss you so much.”

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Be honest and don’t be afraid to show your weakness when sharing your feelings with your ex. As scary as it sounds, letting the other person know how you feel is still the best way to win their heart back. The hope is that they feel the same way as you and the two of you will get back together again. Here are some other ways to express feelings:

“I can’t stop thinking about you. You really said it. I hope you will give me another chance.”
“I’ve really missed you these past few weeks.”
“I’m so glad we’re talking again. He has been very sad since the breakup. I miss you.”
“Honestly, I still love you.”

“Do you want to hang out with the group?”

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Invite your ex to hang out with a group of friends to take the first step. Your goal is to bring your ex back, but you may not be ready to ask for a date. A group outing is a great first step to rekindling the fire of love you two once had. You can try texting:

“This weekend everyone gathers at Mai’s house to play games. Do you want to come?”
“My friends invited me to go bowling at the weekend. Do you want to join?”
“I set up a study group for English. Tomorrow at 4 pm we will meet at the coffee shop. Do you want to come?”
“Linh just started a science fiction book club. I think you will like it. We were supposed to meet on Saturday to pick up the first book. Do you want to come?”

“Do you want to go out?”

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Ask your ex on a date when you feel ready. Maybe you can’t wait to get back with your ex, but it will take some time. Start reconnecting by asking them out on a date. Here are a few ways to invite that person out:

“I’ve been craving Japanese food these days. Would you like to have dinner with me at Sushi Friday night?”
“I still want to play another gpf mi ni match. Will you come to the playground this Saturday?”
“I remember the times when I laughed and joked with you. Are you free so that we can go to the coffee shop tomorrow afternoon?”
“I have a spare game ticket this weekend. Would you like to come with me?”

Advice

If the two of you went through a rough breakup, tell your ex that you’ve changed, and this time things will be different.
If your ex isn’t responding, it’s possible that they don’t want to get back together.

Warning

Stop texting if your ex has made it clear that they want to be alone. You need to respect their private space.
Make sure you know why you want your ex back. If it’s just because you feel lonely, it’s better to let go, no matter how hard it is. Try focusing on your hobbies and spending time with friends during this time. ^{[2] X Research Source}

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