How to Date Short Guys When You’re Tall

Dating shorter guys can make some women feel a little nervous. In this case, you will need to determine your priorities when starting a relationship with a shorter guy. You also need to focus on what you like about him (character and good looks), instead of focusing on what you don’t like about him (height).

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Dating in the early stages

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Do not use height for selection. When you want to date online, don’t choose guys based on height. You will lose someone who really suits you just because he is a few centimeters shorter than you want to be. Don’t try to mention specific heights in your profile, as that might turn off some people. ^{[1] X Research Source}

For example, if you mention your height or say “Only tall guys!”, many guys, even great ones, will understand that you don’t want to date them and give up.
The same is true in real life. Don’t ignore a guy who wants to talk to you just because he’s a few centimeters shorter than you.

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Consider your worries. Many women want to be with taller guys because they feel shy about their height. Dating a taller guy makes them feel smaller, and therefore more feminine. However, how you feel about yourself shouldn’t be based on the relationship between your body and his. You need to be confident with your body so you can feel secure in your relationship with a shorter guy. ^{[2] X Research Source}

Think about why you find it difficult to be with shorter guys. Does he make you feel big? Are you embarrassed to be taller? Take time to consider your feelings.
Try to change your mind. Being shorter than your boyfriend doesn’t make you more feminine. Being taller than your boyfriend doesn’t make you a giant either. You’re the only one who decides if you’re feminine (if that’s what you want) or personality.
Take time to look in the mirror. For example, say “I like my wavy hair”. Building confidence in this way can help you overcome feelings of anxiety.

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Psychology of dating. You shouldn’t wear heels on your first date with a guy who’s shorter than you. That doesn’t mean you should intentionally slouch–be honest with your height. However, don’t add a few centimeters to make people notice the height difference even more. Besides, you should ignore any comments about the height difference unless he is actively joking.

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Don’t make fun of his height. Just like you don’t like people making fun of you when you’re a tall girl, he doesn’t like hearing jokes about how short he is. Don’t make jokes, especially if you’ve just started dating. ^{[3] X Research Sources}

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Try to overcome your prejudices. If you’ve dated taller guys in the past, you’ll need time to adjust your mind, and that’s fine. You can even date other guys during the deliberation period, as long as everyone agrees that you don’t belong yet. Give yourself the time you need to get to know him and adjust to your feelings about height. ^{[4] X Research Sources}

Remind yourself that being shorter than you doesn’t make him any less manly, and being taller than him doesn’t make you any less feminine.

Cher Gopman

Marriage and Love Expert

Cher Gopman is the founder of NYC Wingwoman LLC, which provides dating advice in New York. ‘NYC Wingwoman’ offers matchmaking and dating advice, one-on-one coaching, and an intensive weekend coaching program. Cher is a life coach and former mental health nurse, and her work has been featured in Inside Edition, Fox, ABC, VH1 and The New York Post.

Cher Gopman
Marriage and Love Expert

Does height matter? When you’re in love, height doesn’t matter because the two of you passed the test for each other. If you start dating someone shorter than you, height doesn’t matter because as you get to know him better, his personality will conquer you.

Focus on the positive

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Focus on what you love about him. If you’re worried about the height difference, you’re probably a little bit on the surface. Instead, think about what you love about him, such as his charm, intelligence, or kind heart. You cannot build a relationship based on height alone, however you can build love based on character. ^{[5] X Research Sources}

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Notice how easy it is to kiss him. If you’re dating a guy who’s a lot taller than you, you have to reach out to kiss him. When you love a shorter guy, you will easily shorten your height, making kissing more convenient. Pay attention when you say “good night” and you can easily kiss him without having to stretch. ^{[6] X Research Sources}

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Data research. Height really does offer a lot of advantages, so short guys have to work harder to get the upper hand. That is a point in your favor because many studies have proven that shorter guys do more housework than long-legged guys. ^{[7] X Research Sources}

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Appreciate him highlighting your height. Even though being taller than your boyfriend can make you feel tall and awkward at first, look at this in a different light. Most models are tall girls, so standing next to him makes you look like a model, not tall or bulky. ^{[8] X Research Sources}

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Observe other happy couples. Even though short man-tall-girl romances aren’t as common as short-girl-tall cases, you can find many happy couples in the world who are similar in height to you and your boyfriend. Once you’ve observed a few couples (acquaintances, a couple in public, or a celebrity), you’ll realize that they don’t care about the height difference at all. Instead, they only care about love for each other. ^{[9] X Research Source}

Facing the height difference

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Determine not to let others make you sad because of your height. When you want to meet guys or hang out with a shorter guy, don’t think you have to hide your height. Most people see confidence as an attractive trait, so don’t try to slouch or slouch, as that will only make you look embarrassed because you’re tall. Instead, stand up straight, make eye contact with people, and smile confidently. ^{[10] X Research Source}

Of course, when you’re dating someone, you’ll want to make sure your height doesn’t look too different, but this is entirely up to you.

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Do not wear high heels. If you don’t want to accentuate the height difference, you should wear flats most of the time instead of heels. Another benefit is that your feet won’t hurt anymore! ^{[11] X Research Source} If you want to wear heels, try a 10-12 cm lower sole.

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Practice “reclining”. One way to reduce the height difference, especially when you wear heels, is to lean slightly in one direction by pushing your hips out. You will need to lean on your boyfriend. Don’t walk with slouched shoulders. Instead, walk naturally, even if it makes you taller than him. ^{[12] X Research Source}

Steps

Dating in the early stages

Focus on the positive

Facing the height difference

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