How to Confront Your Friends When They’re Ignoring

Surely at some point in your life, you have suddenly been treated coldly by your friends and pretended you didn’t exist. Feeling ignored is worse than feeling rejected because it makes you feel like you’re worthless. ^{[1] X Research Sources} However, there are many ways to respond effectively to being ignored.

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Situation Assessment

Review your recent moods and feelings. Try to figure out what’s going on in your mind and how you feel. ^{[2] X Source of Research} It is important that you determine whether you are being ignored by your friends or do you think they are ignoring you. Sometimes the problem is with you and your recent feelings, not with your friends.

See if you are going through any of the following: an important life change or a stressful event such as transferring schools and adjusting to a new environment, a breakup with a loved one, an illness in the family, or other difficulties. other towels. Stress in one area of your life affects other areas. For example, if you recently changed your study environment, you may feel isolated from your friends because you don’t know anyone at your new school and don’t have the opportunity to see old friends again, even though you still keep in touch. them via text message. So your sense of isolation is relevant and is how you react to what’s happening in your life.
Emotions are certainly the cause of your feelings of being ignored. In other words: the feeling of being ignored is causing the problem, not the symptom that emerges from what you’re going through.
To understand yourself and your feelings, it’s a good idea to practice writing your autograph or talking to someone you trust, like a friend or relative. The most important thing is to get out of your current emotions and do something else. Changing places and spaces can bring about mental transformation and add positive energy to things to ponder. ^{[3] X Research Sources}

Review your communication with friends. Maybe your friends are going through a difficult time in their life that affects their friendships. As a result, they may not be ignoring you on purpose, but are driven by personal problems and are unable to pay attention or spend much time with you.

Compare your number of encounters with that friend between the previous and recent periods. Are there any major changes? Also, try comparing the number of times you meet your friend and the number of times she meets mutual friends or other friends. Does she often hang out with other people but can’t find time to meet or talk to you?
Think about whether that friend is going through a major life change (such as a parent’s divorce, a loved one’s death, dissatisfaction…), that is the cause of the impact. keeping in touch with friends.
Reflect on recent encounters and see if there are any tense situations between you and your friends. Perhaps your friend is upset or hurt by your actions and words? Did you say something that you’re sure you shouldn’t say behind her back? Do you joke or make indecent comments? Maybe you made your friend angry or sad and she wants to avoid you for a while.

Face to face with friends

Schedule a meeting with friends. ^{[7] X Research Source} It is important to have a meeting plan in place. You will contact your friends and offer to meet them in a safe, private, and quiet place suitable for conversation, such as a coffee shop or classroom. Try to find a comfortable place for the person you need to meet; Don’t invite them to your house. ^{[8] X Research Sources}

Think about how you would question your friend and what you would ask or say to them. Try to focus on listening to what they have to say. You know your friends, you can probably guess how they will react. The goal now is to be mentally and emotionally ready to face them; Don’t mind what your friend did. ^{[9] X Research Source}

Ask questions and listen. Be quiet and listen to your friend explain about ignoring you. First, you need to listen to their thoughts, then share yours. Be specific and give examples related to the behavior you want to talk about. For example, you could tell them something like, “I see you usually go out on Fridays. He said he would text me about the plans. So why don’t you do the same?”

Listen attentively as your friends explain. ^{[10] X Research Source} Keep eye contact, turn towards them, and relax your arms and legs instead of crossing your arms or legs.
Your friends’ answers may surprise you and also help you relieve stress! For example, you’ll find out that they forgot to text you and didn’t have any bad intentions or want to hurt you. Or, perhaps they come home late from work and think it’s too late to call or text you.
It is possible that friends will give unclear answers. For example, they will talk about the difficulties they are facing in life. Or, in the worst case scenario, they don’t give you a reason and just ignore you on purpose. These words are hard to hear, but in the long run, you will feel happy because you dare to face them and know the truth.

Speak your mind about the situation. Stay true to the facts and explain the situation from your point of view and perspective. ^{[11] X Source of Research} Tell your friends how the situation made you feel and how you feel about their actions. Be frank and use first person pronouns to avoid feeling guilty. Some examples of sentences using first person pronouns include: “I feel…”, “I’m sad because…” and “I’m wondering about…”. ^{[12] X Research Source}

For example, try saying, “When I didn’t get your text on Friday night, I felt like you didn’t want to come and intentionally left me.”
Be honest with your feelings. However, you should also note that being frank about an issue does not mean criticizing others. That means you only focus on the problem, not blaming anyone. ^{[13] X Research Source}
Stay calm and don’t let your emotions take over. If you feel angry and can’t think clearly, you should stop the conversation and come back another time. Surely you don’t want to regret what you said while losing your temper. Besides, if your friends start getting angry or aggressive, it’s best to leave before the tension escalates.

Sorry when you make a mistake. If you’re being ignored for hurting someone’s feelings, you should sincerely apologize when it’s your turn to speak. Make sure to clearly explain what you’re apologizing for, and avoid apologizing for how they felt about your action, rather than the action itself.

For example, if you said your friend’s job was completely silly and you would never do one, don’t say, “I’m sorry I made you angry by rating my work. uncle”. This is an apology but not apologizing for not admitting the mistake in the comment and also means that the person was too sensitive when angry with your words. Instead, you should say, “I’m sorry I made that comment about your work. Those words were hard to hear and hurt him. I know you worked so hard to pay your tuition, I was wrong for not thinking about your feelings.” ^{[14] X Research Source}

Find solutions. Working together to find a solution is often the best option because sometimes one person feels okay that way and another doesn’t. ^{[15] X Research Resources} You can come up with simple solutions like promising your friends to schedule more meetings or writing reminders so that no one gets left behind. However, you should remember to tailor the solution to each situation and the reasons for ignoring it. For example:

If your friends ignore you because of something in their lives, give them time and space to deal with their feelings. Be sure to let them know (via email, text or phone) that you’re there whenever they need to talk. Don’t put extra pressure on them by asking to meet; Instead, you should just contact them to let them know that you will always remember and cherish this friendship. If you have said it, then you should keep your word, that is, always be available when your friends need it. ^{[16] X Research Source}
If you feel ignored because of something, as mentioned in part 1, you should let your friends know what’s going on with you and talk about ways to maintain the friendship while you’re dating. face a change in life. For example, if you’re busy taking care of your sick mother and don’t have time to see your friends, try asking them to come over; Thus, you can both take care of your mother and have time to meet friends.

Warning

If ignoring turns to bullying, you should talk to your teacher, supervisor, parent, or anyone you trust to help. It’s not okay to be constantly threatened, scolded, teased, stalked – this is a form of psychological abuse. ^{[19] X Research Source}

Steps

Situation Assessment

Face to face with friends

Warning

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