How to confess to someone for the first time

Confession is extremely important in a relationship. No doubt you’re eager to let your partner know how much you love them, but at the same time you’re a little scared to reveal your secrets. If you’re ready to confess but don’t know how, this article will show you how.

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Wait until you are ready.

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Everyone will be ready at a different time. It’s best to wait until you really understand your feelings. Spend time with your partner regularly to get to know them better and have a deeper connection, notice how many times you think of them, and note how you feel when you’re not together. Let your emotions deepen over time. ^{[1] X Research Source}

You can also wait until you feel they have feelings for you. Watch for obvious signs, like laughing together at your own personal jokes or sharing their feelings freely. ^{[2] X Research Source}
If you want to know if two people are compatible, tell them you want to date them (if you haven’t already).

Confess naturally at the right time.

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Wait until it’s just the two of you for a private and special space. If you want to confess in that moment and have thought about it, do it now. Just make sure the two of you are alone so that the confession is special and free of distractions. ^{[3] X Research Sources}

You could say, “I’m so lucky to have met you in my life. I love you”.

Plan a special date.

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Confess your feelings over dinner or on a romantic outing. You just need to choose a place with privacy to have a special confession moment. Plan a date that makes your partner feel comfortable and relaxed. ^{[4] X Research Sources}

If your partner likes simplicity, you can replace a hearty 5-course dinner with a “court” of mixed rice paper and milk tea. Or, you will plan a picnic and confess while having lunch in the park.

Make a voice or video call if two people are far apart.

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If the two of you are far apart, you can still confess your feelings. First, you’ll text them asking if they have time to talk on the phone. It’s best to choose a time when your partner isn’t busy when you call to confess.

You can text: “I miss your voice. Do you have time to answer the phone tonight?”
Plan a date via video call, such as having dinner together online. You can say, “I’m glad to see you even if we’re not together right now. I love you”. ^{[5] X Research Sources}
You can also make it romantic (and surprise) by confessing your love via voice message.

Write love letters to them.

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Plan something romantic, private, and unique that suits your partner’s preferences. Writing love letters is a great option that gives you the opportunity to refine your words and express what you love about them. Think of something important and write it down. ^{[6] X Research Source}

Let’s say your partner regularly takes your 15-minute break to call you on the phone or always makes you laugh when the two of you watch movies together. These are the things you should write in your letter.
You can write, “Every time I hear your voice on the phone, I feel so happy. I love you very much”.

Give them a gift with a handwritten confession.

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This is a thoughtful way of showing affection. Your gift doesn’t have to be big or expensive. You just need to choose a hardcover book that they love and write in it a few words to confess your feelings. Or, you would buy a bouquet of flowers and add a handwritten “I love you” card. Prepare the right gift for that person so that they feel your special care and affection.

If two people live far apart, you can surprise them with gifts and confessions sent in the mail.

Confess love without expecting a response.

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Don’t confess just because you want to hear their response. Confession is an attempt to express your deep feelings honestly. After you confess your feelings, if they don’t immediately respond with “I love you too,” that doesn’t mean the relationship is dead. Be patient and give them time. ^{[7] X Research Sources}

Everyone experiences relationships at a different pace. Maybe they’re just not ready to accept your feelings.
No matter how they respond, remember that it’s not wrong to show interest in someone. ^{[8] X Research Sources}

Note when not to confess.

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Avoid confessing during or after making love. This leaves the person confused as to whether you are being sincere. In addition, you should also avoid confessing while intoxicated. Confessions won’t be so special when you or your partner are out of your mind, and they’ll wonder if your feelings will change once you stop drinking. ^{[9] X Research Source}

Don’t make your first confession right after an argument. Confession marks an important milestone in a relationship. It is best not to confess to make up or make the person angry.

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