How to Chase a Girl

So you are captivated by a lovely girl and are wondering how to take the first step. Whether you’re looking to pursue her via text, social media or face-to-face, we’ve got you covered! It’s all about confidence, so keep reading for the tips and advice below to seduce the girl of your dreams.

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Decide when to approach the girl.

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Choosing the right place and time is important. If you want to see her, choose a time when she’s not busy and there aren’t many distractions around. If you’re going to send a text, you should avoid bedtime and choose when she’s not at work or at school to push the send button. This will increase your chances of getting a positive response and show that you respect her.

Approach her when she is alone and has no friends around.
Avoid flirting during class if you two are in the same class.
Ask her if she wants to meet you later.

Praise her.

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Start with an indirect compliment like “I like you.” Text or flirt about something about her that you really like. Complimenting a girl’s looks is a great place to start, but you should try to find something more than just looks. Tell her why you like her on a deeper level. Here are a few of our favorite compliments: ^{[1] X Research Source}

“Can I be a little less pretty?”
“You have really charming eyes.”
“Your smile can light up a room, really!”
“You know what’s the best? It’s me.”
“I wish I could hear you laugh all day.”
“You know what, you’re amazingly amazing.”
“I’ve never met anyone as kind as you.”

Notice her interests and interests.

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One of the best things you can do to impress a girl is to pay attention to her. Everyone wants to be seen and heard – especially in a romantic relationship. Let her know that you like her by showing your genuine interest.

Ask her about her interests, hobbies, and passions.
Pay attention to the things she likes when you’re flirting with her, like buying her a candy bar she loves or asking her out to a movie starring her favorite actor.

Ask open-ended questions.

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Texting her on social media is a great way to get her to notice you. Start the conversation by sending her a direct message with an open-ended question. “Flirting” is just breaking the initial awkward gap, so why not ask her a question that she will surely answer? You can comment on something she posted on her story or send a message asking about an event in her profile. ^{[2] X Research Source} Try one of the following direct messages:

“Your puppy is so cute. How many months old is it?”
“I’m curious… What’s your favorite pizza filling?”
“I love that book! Do you have any other books to recommend to me?”
“Every dish you cook looks delicious! Who taught you to cook?”
“I keep obsessing about tomorrow’s exam. What do you think is the hardest part?”

Comment on her social media posts.

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Get her attention on social media to start flirting with her. Whether you know her in real life or not, you can like or comment on a girl’s post to tell her “Hi, I’m watching you.” The more you interact with her on social media, the more often she will see your profile picture, so write down any ideas that pop into your head. Compose friendly and funny flirty comments like:

“Oh my god, stop being so perfect.”
“As always: super lovely.”
“Never seen anything better.”
“What’s on fire, or is it you?”
“These pizzas look so delicious! Can I have a piece, please?”

Make her smile.

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Humor can break the ice when you approach a girl. Send her funny memes, tell a joke, or spread a cheesy sentence to dispel the initial embarrassment if any. You can use your funny comments to send messages around things she likes, or choose one of these funny jokes like:

“You’re so cool that I forgot my flirting.”
“Your name is WiFi right? Because I feel connected.”
“Did you just steal something? Where’s your heart gone?”
“You have to call the police. It must be illegal to be so pretty.”
“Do you have a bandage for me, please? Because of you, I fell and broke my knee.”

Share with her about your feelings.

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Cat and mouse games to win her heart will only push her away. Instead of going around the Three Kingdoms, please express your sincere feelings. Your sincerity and vulnerable side will help you win a girl’s heart, especially if you are looking forward to a future relationship. Try saying things like:

“You are a rare wonderful girl.”
“I won’t lie. I like you so much.”
“You know what, I feel safe around you.”
Try talking to her about yourself and your problems, as this can go far beyond just expressing your feelings to her.
Sharing emotions can pave the way to a lasting relationship in the future.

Be yourself.

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The best thing you can do when chasing a girl is to show the real you. You are a wonderful person, and she will definitely notice if you let your personality shine through. Listen to your heart, and what will come will happen. ^{[3] X Research Sources}

Wear clothes that make you feel comfortable and confident. This can make a big difference, plus your style of dress is a reflection of your personality.
Say a few words of encouragement to yourself before moving on to feel more confident – you will!

Be bold.

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Confidence comes in handy when you want to flirt with a girl. Expressing your feelings to someone takes courage, and she will appreciate that you stepped forward. Then, take a deep breath – don’t be afraid to show your weakness, because she will be impressed by it.

Show confidence by puffing out your chest, straightening your back, and speaking confidently.
Repeat the mantra “I will succeed” over and over to remind yourself that you can do it.

Invite her out.

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Flirting is the first step towards asking her out . By this point, you’ve either sent her a direct message or you’ve started chatting with her. You’ve expressed your desire and got her attention, so now it’s time for you to ask her, “Do you want to go out with me?”

Invite her casually by expressing how you feel and pause for a moment to wait for her response, or just ask a simple question. ^{[4] X Research Sources}
Put her at the center by asking, “How would you feel if I asked you out?” instead of “I want to ask you out.” ^{[5] X Research Sources}
Invite her out on a specific date. Instead of saying “Do you want to go out some day?”, be specific about the date, time and place.
Pay attention to her body language if the two of you meet face to face. Her expressions like leaning in or touching your arm could be a sign that she likes you. ^{[6] X Research Sources}

Remember that anyone can be rejected.

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The important thing that you need to understand is that she can absolutely say “no”. Anyone can face rejection, and this is normal. Sometimes things don’t go our way, but you know what? You’ve dared to step out and confess your feelings, and you should be happy for it! ^{[7] X Research Sources}

I know this sounds a bit old, but still remind you that there are many people waiting for you out there.
See her rejection as an opportunity for you to step out and try again.
You only have one life to live, so don’t waste opportunities. Go out there and grab it!

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