How to Attract Others with Mystery

Eye contact. Eye contact shows you have confidence. Also, when you make eye contact with someone, it shows you’re interested in the object. Make sure not to hold that gaze for too long – about 2 seconds should be enough – otherwise you will look very intimidating or threatening.

Ease. Vibrant people don’t let anyone imagine much because they are already the center of attention. To be attractively mysterious, be calm, a little serious, and in moderation. Stay calm even in the middle of a storm, no matter how spinning everything around.

Learn a lot of new knowledge. You must be both mysterious and intelligent. Because you won’t be talking much about yourself, you need a variety of topics to discuss. Not only will this keep the conversation away from personal matters, but it will also show that you are passionate enough to pursue a topic. ^[1]

• Make sure the topic of discussion is interesting but not divisive. For example, the issue of the presidential candidate, while cool, is divisive. Instead, discuss the impact of fish farms on the environment, which is both interesting and non-divisive.

Make a question. Asking questions is a great way to be mysterious, attract people, and serve several different purposes. It keeps the conversation away from personal topics about you, shows your interest in others and, above all, gives others a chance to talk about you. People will think you’re particularly interested in them and will feel flattered that you want to hear their stories. ^[2]

• Start with simple questions like “Where are you from?” or “Where would you like to travel if money were not an issue?”. Listen to the answer and then ask a follow-up question, for example: “Oh, you want to go to Paris? What is it about the City of Light that attracts you? Do you want to go alone or bring someone with you?”.

Amusing. Mystery does not mean lack of grace. Let’s make everyone laugh. Laughing puts people in a better mood and people feel that the person who makes them laugh is warm. Don’t be afraid to laugh yourself. A smile represents the good nature of gratitude for life, which is the energy that attracts people. ^[3]

• You don’t have to talk to someone to make them laugh. When making eye contact with them, smile lightly and watch, they will smile back at you.

Change subject. You probably won’t talk about yourself, but you have the right to change the subject. This works because it shows that you are not only a mysterious person but also very confident and knowledgeable about many subjects. ^[4]

• Identify opportunities to change topics spontaneously, often when mentioned in someone’s response.
• This is a good time to ask questions, which will redirect the conversation.

Alpha boy or flirt girl. Depending on your gender, mystery can be a sign you’re an alpha guy or a flirt, both of which are very attractive. Mysterious people exude confidence, which can be expressed differently depending on gender. One thing that’s neutral regardless of gender is that the mysterious person tacitly controls the situation, not flamboyant or attention-seeking. ^[5]

• This idea is rooted in the psychology of gravity, which recognizes that attraction is physiological and psychological, both of which are interconnected.