How to Heal a Relationship

Stop keeping things to yourself. If little things upset you and you don’t talk about them, they will explode at some point. If you deal with them in the first place, they won’t be a big deal. ^[9]

Control feelings. If you find yourself discussing while angry or getting angry in the middle of a conversation, perhaps you need to take a moment to calm down. You know what will make you feel better. Perhaps you need to go for a walk, listen to music, or soak in a tub of water. You can also try counting from one to ten or taking deep breaths. Whatever you need to do, take a few minutes to calm down before continuing the discussion further. ^[10]

• Look for warning signals. If you feel like you have to win an argument, it’s time to take a break. At that time, you will be inclined to say words that you will regret or take the argument too far. ^[11]

Think about what the other person is going through. When you are angry, you will only think about how badly you have been treated. However, when you start forcing yourself to think about what the other person is going through, you will gradually pull yourself out of that thought. Empathy can help calm your anger. ^[12]

• It is very important to respect the other person’s feelings, because he or she has the right to express his or her feelings no matter what. Whether you think the person is right or not, you should respect what they are feeling. ^[13]

Listening carefully. Listening to what the other person has to say can spark your empathy for his or her feelings. Don’t just listen. Really think about what the other person is saying, and try to understand what lies behind each of those statements. ^[14]

• One way to show that you’re listening is to try to summarize what the other person is saying. For example, you could say, “I heard you say that you get annoyed when you have to do more housework than I do.”
• Another way is to ask relevant questions to make sure you understand what the other person is saying.

Discuss your views calmly and clearly. You also have the right to express your feelings and thoughts. It is important to stay calm and speak clearly about what you are feeling and thinking. You can’t expect the other person to read your mind to know what you’re thinking and feeling. ^[15]

• Continue talking about what you think is your problem instead of blaming each other. In other words, start your sentence with “first person” instead of “second person”. For example, you could say, “I get annoyed when the house isn’t clean. Can we make a cleaning schedule together so that we can keep track of it? “I never cleaned the house with you!” ^[16]

Find a way to compromise. The most important thing in any relationship is learning to compromise. You can’t expect to win arguments all the time, because a relationship involves both give and take. Compromise is about finding a common ground and both of you must limit arguments. ^[17]

• Discuss your own needs and desires. If the two of you can decide what both of you need, you may not need to focus so much on the “want” part. Basically, the two of you need to decide what is most important and what is less important to you. Learn to give in to issues that don’t really matter. ^[18]
• If you hate cleaning the bathroom but your spouse wants you to help with the housework, maybe you should divide housework into things you’re more comfortable with and things he/she can tolerate. be more.

Ignore the past. When you argue, you tend to say harsh words or bring up things from the past to blame. You know how to hit your opponent’s weak points because you know him/her so well. However, all of that just makes everyone feel angry and even makes your relationship irreparable. Refrain from reprimanding yourself. ^[19]

Make your relationship a priority. Indifference can cause problems in your relationship. As time goes on, you will gradually get used to dating and no longer give as much attention as before. Once you understand the problem, you can try to change it. ^[20]

Know respect. Being harsh with each other can easily cause your relationship to fall apart. If the two of you try to be kind and gentle with your other half, it will help the two of you re-establish the bond you once had. ^[21]

Take the time to interact. When you’re in a new relationship, you take the time to talk and find out what the other person likes. The two of you discuss your fears, likes, and dislikes. If your relationship has been around for a while, the two of you will probably stop doing it. If that’s the case for you, you need to keep trying to rebuild the bond between the two of you by taking the time to talk to each other every day. Set aside time for both of you, and when you do, try to dig deeper instead of just talking about the same daily routines. ^[22]

Try dating again. Another way to mend it is by planning a date. That means the two of you will have something to look forward to, as well as spending special time just the two of you together. ^[23]

Don’t forget to touch each other. Touching is an important part of a relationship and it doesn’t just mean making love to each other. Kissing, holding hands, holding hands, and hugging are also ways to increase intimacy. Physical touch creates a bond with your other half. ^[24]

Think of concrete solutions. Once the two of you have come up with some problems together, talk about solutions together. How can the two of you solve the problem in a way that is acceptable to both? In other words, the two of you need to find what you both have in common. ^[25]

• Start with the points you both agree on. Perhaps at least the two of you agree on the problem, or perhaps the first step in a solution. For example, maybe the two of you agree that the two of you lack the connection. The two of you can go further and agree that the two of you need to spend more time together. ^[26]

Make plans together. Once the two of you have agreed on the proposed solution, it’s time to turn it into concrete rules. For example, if you both agree that you need to spend more time together, then maybe you should agree to go on a date at least once a week. ^[27]

Respect the other person’s needs. Everyone reacts differently to situations, which means that everyone has different emotional needs. For example, maybe your partner needs more time together during difficult times, so try to be there for him or her. ^[28]

Continue talking. When you feel like interrupting your other half, consider your feelings. Instead of interrupting, talk about how it made you feel and why. In other words, you need to keep working to improve your communication with your partner, because you can’t expect your partner to guess what you’re thinking or feeling. ^[29]

• For example, if your partner mentions going out to dinner at a restaurant she likes, you might want to immediately protest over money if your budget is tight. Instead say, “Spending money makes me feel a little nervous right now because we’re having a hard time making it to a payday. We can compromise and go picnic somewhere. Are not?”

Don’t forget to take the time to develop yourself. You may be inclined to focus solely on your relationship, but you should also take the time to develop your interests. You’ll bring more to your relationship when you’re an independent person, so spending time apart is super important. ^[30]