How to Flirt via Instant Messaging

Start the conversation normally. Just like in everyday life, the first step to flirting is to overcome your fears and strike right away! Send the person a short message to ask about their day, inquire about work or school, or simply to say “Hi!”. The hardest part of flirting is getting over the initial hesitation, so if you’re having a hard time with this, remind yourself that no matter how bad things get, it will work. less stressful than confronting the person face-to-face.

• There’s no reason to worry when it comes to IM (instant messaging) flirting – if the person you want to talk to doesn’t want to talk to you, they have the right not to reply to your messages, and you It would also be hard to tell this apart because from your perspective, they might just be not using the computer.
• This also means that, if you don’t know someone well , you can use an excuse to start a conversation to avoid embarrassment. Asking for help with a study-related problem is always a great way to start, as is asking a question about something impressive the other person has. For example, if the person uses a username associated with a band, you could say, “Wow, that’s a good name. Did you go to their concert last time?”.

Chat. After greetings and exchanging pleasantries, you may want to learn more about the person (just like in real life). For example, you might inquire about the person’s work or education, their hobbies, or recent travel. Instead of just asking questions, you can also present your comments on these topics. When the other person responds, add your own comments or ask questions related to them and start from there! Don’t get too curious about their personal lives – you should keep the conversation light, fun, and focused on the playful topic.

• Don’t focus too much on chatting. A minute or two of chatting is great to break the awkward atmosphere, but too much can be boring.
• For example, after you have openly inquired about your partner’s interest in a band related to their username, you can ask them questions to find out what they like and don’t like. interested in music. You can even give your own opinions and suggestions. For example, you could say something like, “If you like that band, you might want to check out Manic Albatross – they’re similar to The Beatles, just stronger. What’s your favorite style of the group?”.

Droll. Everyone loves a sense of humour. Marilyn Monroe once said, “If you can make a woman laugh, you can make her do anything” (don’t worry, ladies – the same goes for men. !). Be playful and even a little sarcastic when you respond to the other person’s statement.

• For example, if she/he asks you what you’re going to do, instead of saying “find someone to flirt on Facebook” you could use a slightly sarcastic response such as “write a book novel” or “is drowning in his own suffering”. This answer can become a natural starting point for a conversation about hobbies, like the writing you’re doing and about that delicious bottle of bourbon you enjoyed yesterday. .
• Take our conversation for example, you can add a joke or two when chatting about music. For example, you could say something like, “I don’t know why lately, every song on the radio has a little bit of Texas Flynn in it. Maybe during his detox. still have time to record?”

Joking playfully. Once you’ve established a good rapport with the person you’re talking to, it’s a good idea to joke around a bit to increase the level of the conversation. During this process, you need to maintain a pleasant atmosphere so that the conversation flows smoothly. The general rule is that the better you know the person, the more “violently” you can tease them.

• Joke appropriately. Of course, you’ll want to avoid heartbreaking topics related to the person’s personal life, career, aspirations, etc.,
• The line between being a flirt and a bad guy is thin, so when you’re in doubt about this, be careful. It’s easy to come up with another excuse in the future, but it’s hard to find a way to turn the situation around once you’ve hurt someone’s feelings. Using the example above, you can easily ruin a conversation about your partner’s favorite band by saying something like “God, don’t say them? Hahaha”. However, if you say, “They’re just fakers and their fans are the worst,” that way you’ll be less threatening.

Use bold emojis. One of the advantages of using emoticons for flirting through an IM service compared to a purely text-based service such as email is that you can use emoticons to clearly express your intentions in words you use. If you’re flirting, you’ll want to add in the many wink ( 😉 ) and “tongue out” ( :p ) symbols that most IM services are available to. Along with flirting, using these emoticons to tease will make your intentions clearer, and more agreeable.

• A word of warning – don’t use too many emoticons. During the conversation, you should only add them occasionally to sweeten your flirting and make the vague intentions of your statement a little clearer. If you often use emoticons, you will make the other person think you are childish or quite annoying.

If you get a pretty good response from the other side, you can add “fire” to the conversation! If your partner responds well to your jokes and jokes, you may want to make things more intimate. You should only do this gently – don’t turn a fun teaser into a hot one too quickly. Instead, use subtle allusions. Be insinuating , not outright. This is an act of “flexibility” and it is a valuable skill that many people in the virtual and real world are constantly seeking.

• Make funny comments. Any form of flirting or seduction implies a certain degree of naivete. Understanding this naivety can do you a lot of good in making you more realistic and less monstrous.
• Using the band story above as an example, if the other person says that she/he thinks a particular song is pretty sexy, pretend it and add some fire to the conversation. Respond to the other party with a shocking statement such as “Be nice!” or with a grin like “Oh, that’s it? ;)”.

If the other person responds to you with displeasure, stop. Flirting with other people anywhere means you will have to deal with the risk of rejection. In the virtual world, where cheap and insensitive communication resides, the danger is real. If the person you’re flirting with isn’t accepting, stop and gracefully exit the conversation. For example, you could say that you need to do something (homework or a work-related task would be a good excuse) or that you need to go to sleep. It doesn’t matter what reason you use to end this conversation – what really matters is that you respect the other person’s wishes and avoid putting yourself in unnecessary embarrassment.

• Taking the band story above as an example, if you mention a particular song and the other person says it’s their LOTTERY’s favorite song, you might want to stop this flirting. politely. You can simply do this by typing in “Ah, I have to go. Talk to you later!”.

Be the one to end the conversation. A good rule of thumb for flirting online and in everyday life is to end a meeting by making the other person want to talk to you more. In the world of IM flirting, this means that you should deliver a goodbye message before the conversation starts to get boring. This way, the person you’re chatting with will only have a happy, positive memory of the conversation – not a memory of the awkwardness of having to search for topics to continue the conversation.

• If your partner responds positively to your flirting, form an interesting sign-off pattern to make sure your partner will always remember you. You can use emoticons. For example, sending the other person “Good night” may sound tedious and unpromising, “Good night ;)” can subtly mean that you will think about them (and vice versa). again).