How to Show Interest in a Girlfriend (For Men)

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This article was co-written by John Keegan. John Keegan is a New York-based marriage and love expert and motivational speaker. He runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his knowledge of marriage and love, attraction and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and gives seminars on marriage and love internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York and Men’s Health. This article has been viewed 102,767 times.

You care about your girlfriend but worry that you haven’t done it the right way. She looks unhappy. Here are some steps you can take to spice up your relationship and to prove that she’s the most important person to you, whether you’ve been together a few weeks, months, or so on. years.

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Action every day

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Straight. Don’t assume that your girlfriend knows how much you feel for her. Be clear with her about your feelings. Ambiguity creates a feeling of uncertainty and that puts a strain on the relationship.

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Ask her how things are going. You are her spiritual support, listen to everything she shares with you. Help her feel more comfortable by talking about the problems she’s having. Empathize with her, share her joys and sorrows. This creates a strong bond between the two of you.

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Listen. In a relationship, you shouldn’t underestimate the importance of listening.

Even if what she has to say seems boring, you should still pay attention because that is her interest.
Learn to listen to her “implicit” and figure out what you can do to help her.
Listening shows that you want to be a part of her life and helps you build trust
In addition to listening, you should also give feedback on what she has to say. Join the conversation, but don’t try to take control.

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Give simple compliments. Always be sincere, because others will perceive the lie when you are not sincere.

Say she looks full of life today.
When she changes her hairstyle, you should also compliment her on the change.
Praise her for what she did in class/work.
Positive comments about the outfit she is wearing.

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Trust her. If you don’t trust your girlfriend, she won’t trust you either. Every good relationship is based on a solid foundation of trust.

If she’s out with friends, don’t call or text her every 20 minutes. Let her have fun without you by her side.
Avoid jealousy. Don’t interrupt and get defensive when she’s talking to other guys. Just because the two of you are dating doesn’t mean she can only chat with you alone.

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Respect her. Always treat her with respect, even when the two of you argue.

Be respectful even when she’s not with you. Don’t talk bad about her behind her back.
Be frank and discuss any concerns with her. Don’t nibble on the problems you face, be frank, don’t be crooked.
Respect her understanding. Don’t assume she needs help with everything.
Don’t shut down all her ideas. Every individual is completely equal in a relationship.
Never insult or abuse your girlfriend.

Create a sweet surprise

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Write a love message for her. A handwritten love note shows that you care enough to share your feelings with her. However, make sure it’s a handwritten message; Don’t type on the computer and print on paper! Here are some suggestions for content:

“I’ve been thinking of you all day…”
“I wish I could be with you right now, but this message will do it for me…”
“I’m looking forward to seeing you again…”
Place the message in a place that generates strong emotions. Ideally, let her find the message by accident. For example, if you know she has to read a few pages of a book before going to class, you might put a message in the middle of those pages. If the two of you live together, you could write a soapy message on the bathroom mirror, or put it on her nightstand.

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Don’t forget to tell her you love her because the moment you confess your feelings will be etched in her mind.

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Talk to her before going to bed. Call or text her when she’s getting ready for bed. This is a very important call to show your interest.

This call is your way of saying that she is always on your mind.
She will think of you one last time before falling asleep.
In addition, she also has someone to talk to about her problems during the day, which helps her sleep better.

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Surprise her with candy.

Chocolate comes in many varieties, from cheap to expensive. You don’t need to empty your wallet, but avoid giving her just a regular chocolate bar at the confectionery counter. Choose premium chocolates and remember that just a little is enough to make a difference.
Using imported confectionery is a “chic” way to show your interest, and it’s also fun to try. These items are also not too expensive.
Bake some cookies. This shows your thoughtfulness and ingenuity in the kitchen.
If she doesn’t like candy, you can surprise her with her favorite snack.

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Give her flowers. This is one of the traditional ways to show affection and is also very effective. Bright, vibrant and joyful flowers are a meaningful spiritual gift. However, flowers can be very expensive, so you should save them for really important occasions.

Most flower shops sell bouquets from 300,000 VND.
If you know your girlfriend’s favorite flower color or type, you should tell the staff at the florist and ask them to design a bouquet you like.
If you find wildflowers, you can pick them and make a bouquet for her yourself. Just make sure you don’t pick flowers from someone else’s garden.
If she’s having a bad day at the office, order flowers for her. The service can be pricey, but show your interest and she can show it off to her co-workers.
A flower spike has the same effect as a bouquet of flowers. The most important is how you give flowers.

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Give a simple gift. A surprise gift can change the mood of a dreary day and really help her understand your concern. Some suggestions are as follows:

Love gift voucher. Give her gift certificates to redeem for something you’ll do for her. Such as romantic dinners, going to the movies, you will hug and kiss her at her request, etc.
Accessory. Clothes can be expensive, but a lovely accessory will make a great gift that won’t break you. Choose a hat, scarf or bag.
A bottle of wine and a pair of glasses for drinking.

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Show affection when she least expects it. Take action when she’s not paying attention and you’ll make a strong impression.

Hide behind while she is working and kiss unexpectedly.
Hug her one more time before she goes to work or school.
Pull her closer while walking together on a cold day.
Hold her hand while walking in public.

Further

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Get to know her family and friends. Do your best to get along and get along with these people. They are an important part of her life and you should show them respect. This will let her know that you are serious in the relationship.

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Plan a treasure hunt game. This is a fun afternoon activity, and your ideas and plans will show that you care for her.

First, choose a treasure. You can wear anything, from a piece of jewelry to a dinner out or something personal.
Plan your search. Decide the length of the treasure hunt and where you want to host the game. Popular places for romantic treasure hunts include “where the two of you first met” or “where the two of you first dined together”.
Write messages. Put the first message where you know she’ll see it. Write something like this: “This is a little game for you, you can find the next message at [first clue]”.
Don’t make the treasure hunt too difficult, just have fun!

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Prepare a meal for her. This is not only like a date, but also shows your cooking skills. Don’t worry too much about making a mess, the process won’t be as complicated as you think.

Plan meals. Find a simple recipe that doesn’t involve too many steps. Try to time the preparation so that all the ingredients are ready at the same time.
Make sure your meals are balanced. Add a side dish of vegetables and don’t prepare a large serving.
Pasta is a safe bet because it’s easy to make and most people love to eat.
The dining area must be cleared before dinner. Light a candle or two and make sure the tableware is in place.
Dinner with a budget-friendly bottle of wine if you’re old enough to drink.

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Give her a multi-song CD or a playlist.

The making of CDs was inspired by previous synthetic music tapes. Mostly you will burn to disc the songs that she likes and the songs that express your feelings for her. Music often leaves a deep impression on memories, and a unique compilation CD will make an indelible impression.
Create continuous playlists. The goal is for her to listen from start to finish without getting bored or moving on to another song. Make sure the first song grabs her attention and the subsequent songs follow naturally.
Most music software lets you burn your content to a CD. See how to burn a CD for specific instructions.
If she uses a service like iTunes or Spotify, you’ll create a playlist on it and share it with her. As such, you can create playlists longer than the length of the CD, but because this is an intangible gift, it will reduce the level of special.

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Action every day

Create a sweet surprise

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