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This article was co-written by Cher Gopman. Cher Gopman is the founder of NYC Wingwoman LLC, which provides dating advice in New York. ‘NYC Wingwoman’ offers matchmaking and dating advice, one-on-one coaching, and an intensive weekend coaching program. Cher is a life coach and former mental health nurse, and her work has been featured in Inside Edition, Fox, ABC, VH1 and The New York Post.
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Saying “I love you” to the man you love can take your relationship to the next level. While you’re ready for it, the guy might not be. You should be sure of how you feel and monitor his actions to see if he loves you too. If you both feel the same way, your feelings won’t frighten him.
Steps
Mentally prepare
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Think about whether you really love him or are just crazy for a moment. Before saying love, control your true feelings first. Are you just suddenly overwhelmed with feelings for your partner or does that love develop over time? Passion is something that comes on a whim while true love is cultivated over time. [1] X Research Source
- You have to get to know the person well before confessing. If you’ve been together for at least 3 months and have had a few fights, you’ll get to know your partner better.
- If you’ve only been dating for a few weeks and everything is pretty much perfect, then you’re just infatuated with love, not really in love.
- It’s better to keep your feelings inside until you are sure to love him.
- Confessing your crush too early in a relationship will scare your partner if he doesn’t feel the same way as you do.
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Guess if he loves you. Your boyfriend probably feels the same way as you, just hasn’t said it yet. Even if he doesn’t speak, his actions still show some emotion. Men often show affection through actions instead of words. [2] X Research Source Think back to the relationship to see if he gave you any signs. Ask yourself a few questions. [3] X Research Sources[4] X Research Sources
- Does he see you as a priority?
- Does he mention you in his future plans and goals?
- Have you met the important people in his life? (family, friends, colleagues…)
- If his actions show interest in you, he won’t be afraid of your strong feelings.
- Does he use “we” instead of “you”?
- Does he take care of you patiently and always want to make you laugh?
- Is he acting affectionate? Do you hug, kiss and hold your hand?
- If he acts like he loves you, then it won’t be easy to get scared when you show affection. And if his actions don’t show his love for you, then his words of love should be kept.
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Determine why you want to confess to him. You should only say “I love you” when you really love him. Don’t confess just to feel secure in the relationship or expect to hear him back. [5] X Research Source Never say love is just to manipulate, hold, or correct mistakes. [6] X Research Source
- The best reason to say “I love you” is because you can’t hold it back any longer and want him to know it.
- Confession can change your relationship, so make sure you’re ready.
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Be prepared in case he doesn’t say he loves you back. While you’re ready for love, your guy may not be ready. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t care or will never love you. It’s just that he’s not in tune with you right now. Think about what you should do if he doesn’t respond. [7] X Research Sources
- If he doesn’t feel the same way, you’ll feel rejected or uncertain about the relationship.
- If you feel like you’re going to fall apart when he doesn’t love you as much as you do, postpone the confession.
Talk to him
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Choose the right time. Pick a time when he’s relaxed, no stress, in a good mood. Make sure both are in a private place, no one disturbs.
- Avoid showing affection after a physically or psychologically stressful situation (like after cuddling). He will easily say he loves you because of the high adrenaline levels, causing a surge of emotions. [8] X Research Sources
- Also avoid speaking when he is drunk or sleepy. He may not remember what you said.
- If the two of you are discussing future plans for your relationship or about your feelings, this is the perfect time to say you love him.
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Say those words. Be as natural as possible and say you love him. Look him in the eye and say “I love you”. You don’t have to be exaggerated or awkward, just speak from your heart.
- You can choose the most ideal situation to tell him, but don’t think too much. If you’re both alone and having fun, confess. Listen to your instincts telling you when to say “I love you”. [9] X Research Source
- Avoid saying “You are the love of my life”. Because it creates a feeling of comparison between you and his old relationship. He may love you, but he doesn’t see you as the love of his life right now. You may not get the response you want if you use that expression. [10] X Research Source
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Give him a break. When you say you love him, let him know that he doesn’t have to reciprocate if he doesn’t feel the same way. Show that you don’t put any pressure on it.
- You can use the phrase “I love you. I understand maybe you’re not ready or you just don’t feel the same way as me. I just want you to know how I feel.”
- Remember that everyone’s rate of emotional development is different. Even if he doesn’t say he loves you, that doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to be with you. [11] X Research Source
- Being patient with a guy is the best way to give him time to develop feelings if it’s not ready.
- If your partner doesn’t say “I love you too,” you can take this opportunity to ask him where he thinks the relationship is headed.
Choose method
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Determine how he likes to receive love. If you love him, you must have shared your feelings and some personal information with him before. What is the best way to do this sharing? By talking on the phone or texting? Is it on a romantic date night? Do the two of you enjoy natural, casual conversations? [12] X Research Source
- There is no right or wrong method for confessing to a guy.
- You won’t freak him out if you confess in the way he’s most receptive.
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Write a letter or card to him. If you’re nervous about talking face-to-face, consider using letters or cards to express your feelings. This also gives the other person time to absorb what you have to say and think carefully about his feelings for you. If you’re nervous about having a conversation or are afraid you’ll shut up, this is a good way to talk to him.
- A card will be helpful if you don’t know what to say. You can choose a funny, bright card that still conveys the purpose.
- You can also borrow poems or songs that say what you want and write them down in handwriting.
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Tell him directly. Direct confession is the most romantic but also the most stressful. Verbally speaking your true feelings forces you to become more vulnerable. He may be attracted to you when you show him the real you and your feelings. [13] X Research Source
- If you choose this way. Practice saying “I love you” out loud in front of the mirror.
- You can also record video. This way, you’ll be sure to tell him everything without worrying. If you make a mistake, you can record another video.
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Show love in action. Love is not just an emotion. Your words and actions must go hand in hand. Before saying love, actions must prove it.
- Do nice things like cook his favorite food or surprise him with tickets to the movie he wants to see.
- Always be there at the bad times. Supporting each other when happy is easy, love is clearly shown when he falls. Whether it’s a bad day at work or facing a family health crisis, be his support and show that you are always on his side 24/7.
- Support his passions and dreams. From getting a PhD or a passion for rock climbing, cheer him up. Learn about his interests, goals to understand and become useful.
Advice
- Men often say love first, but there’s nothing wrong with women saying it first.
- Whether you get the response you want or not, it’s good to be able to say your love and take the weight off your chest.
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This article was co-written by Cher Gopman. Cher Gopman is the founder of NYC Wingwoman LLC, which provides dating advice in New York. ‘NYC Wingwoman’ offers matchmaking and dating advice, one-on-one coaching, and an intensive weekend coaching program. Cher is a life coach and former mental health nurse, and her work has been featured in Inside Edition, Fox, ABC, VH1 and The New York Post.
There are 10 references cited in this article that you can view at the bottom of the page.
This article has been viewed 2,238 times.
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