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This article was co-written by Klare Heston, LCSW. Klare Heston is a licensed independent clinical social worker in Ohio. She received her Master of Social Work degree from Virginia Commonwealth University in 1983.
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Crying in front of the person who is yelling at you is truly a pathetic experience. This embarrasses you and can affect your image at work, school or home. Of course, crying is a normal human response, but in some situations, you have to hold back your tears – so what to do? If you’re someone who cries easily, there are a few ways you can manage your emotions (and tears). In addition, you should also learn to take care of yourself after crying a lot. You can also reduce future problems by practicing some conflict resolution methods.
Steps
Hold your tears
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Skin texture between index finger and thumb. Squeeze hard into the skin between your fingers. However, you should only pinch hard enough to feel pain without leaving a bruise. The pain will distract you and stop you from crying. [1] X Research Source
- You can also squeeze the bridge of your nose. This will stop the tears from coming out of the tear ducts. [2] X Research Source
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Breathe deeply . When you feel stressed, you just need to slowly take a deep breath. This activity calms your body and distracts you from the person who is yelling at you and is enough to avoid the urge to cry. [3] X Research Sources
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Look elsewhere. Look at something else instead of the person yelling at you. Focus on your desk, looking at your hand, or something in front of you. Not making eye contact with the angry person will help you regain your composure. [4] X Research Sources
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Back. Keep your distance from the person yelling at you by stepping back or back into your seat. When you have control of your own space, you will feel less weak and want to cry. [5] X Research Sources
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Find a way out of that situation. If you can’t hold back the tears, you should find a way out of the situation. Try making an excuse if you can, like not feeling well. You could also say that you’re losing your temper and can’t continue to talk to them. Go somewhere secluded to calm down. [6] X Research Source
- You might say, “I’m losing my temper and can’t communicate calmly. I need to go out for a while, but we can talk about it later.”
- The restroom is usually a safe place to avoid.
- Going for a walk to clear your mind is also a good choice. Doing some exercise also helps you to control yourself better.
Take care of yourself
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Find a quiet place. Go to the bathroom, a private room, or somewhere where you won’t be disturbed. If you need to cry, cry. Give yourself the time needed to calm down.
- If you try to hold back while you’re crying, chances are you’ll start crying again.
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Treat eye swelling. Dab cold water under your eyes to cure red and swollen eyes. You can also apply ice cubes wrapped in a towel. [7] X Research Sources
- If you’re at home and in no hurry, you can wrap a towel around a bag of frozen beans and apply it to your face, or apply chilled green tea bags to your eyes.
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Use eye drops. Use eye drops like V.Rhoto to help reduce redness. Put one or two drops of eye drops in either eye. Your eyes will see better after 10-15 minutes. [8] X Research Sources
- If you’re a crybaby, don’t use eye drops too often. Eye drops can actually make your eyes redder if you use too much. About twice a week is enough.
- If you’re wearing contact lenses, make sure you’re using the right eye drops for your contact lenses.
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Make up again. If you wear makeup, you’ll spend a minute reapplying. Wipe off any melted eye makeup and any makeup that’s stuck on your face. Use foundation and concealer to hide red areas. Finish by applying mascara, blush, or any part that has washed out when you cry. [9] X Research Source
- If you often cry, you will need to have a small cosmetic bag ready to keep at your desk or bag.
Resolve conflicts
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Let others know you are a crybaby. If you are a person who is quick to cry, you will tell that truth to your superiors, colleagues, relatives and friends. Emphasize that it’s not a big deal and let them know how best to react when it happens. [10] X Research Source
- For example, you could say, “I cry easily so don’t worry if I’m unhappy – that’s completely normal. I always try to control my emotions, but if I cry, I will need a few minutes to calm down.”
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Talk to the person yelling at you. Once you’ve calmed down, go up to the person who yelled at you and ask if they can talk to you privately. Repeat the problem and apologize if you did something wrong. Then, let them know how yelling makes you feel and politely suggest that they take it easy later. [11] X Research Source
- You might say, “I was really confused when I was scolded by you, so I couldn’t think of a suitable solution to the previous problem. Next time we have a problem like that, I hope we can talk when we’re both calm.”
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Think about why that conflict makes you cry. Ask yourself how you feel when someone yells at you. If you realize what makes your tears stop flowing, you will find the right way to deal with it. [12] X Research Source
- For example, if you are overwhelmed by the effects of adrenaline, you should squeeze an elastic ball to relieve stress.
- If being yelled at makes you feel small and inferior, you can tell yourself that they are human and will make mistakes too, so they have no right to yell at you.
- Think back to how often you cried when you were a child. That trait can follow you into adulthood.
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Find a few alternative strategies. Think about what you can do or say when someone gets mad at you. Visualize yourself calm and in control as you adopt new strategies. [13] X Trusted Source Go Ask Alice Go to Source
- For example, if your boss is often loud, you could say, “I’m sorry you weren’t happy about that and I’ll try to find a solution. However, I also want to add that I can’t concentrate on what you’re saying every time you raise your voice. Can we talk about this more calmly later?”
- If this doesn’t work and your boss keeps yelling at you, you should try talking to your company’s human resources department. No one has the right to insult others in the workplace.
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Deal with stress in a healthy way. If you experience chronic stress, you will often cry in stressful situations. Managing stress will help keep you from crying. Think of relaxing activities that you often do to manage stress. [14] X Trusted Source HelpGuide Go to source
- For example, activities that help you relieve stress include yoga, meditation, calling a friend, going for a walk outside, or listening to relaxing music. Try these activities when you feel stressed or overwhelmed.
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Talk to a psychologist. If your crying is affecting your relationships or interfering with work or school, it’s best to see a psychologist to find out why. A psychologist can help you figure out what’s causing your crying and find ways to stop it.
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You can also confide in a friend if you don’t feel comfortable talking to a psychologist. When you express your feelings to someone close to you, you are opening up to them and gradually opening up to yourself. If you don’t share your problem, you won’t be able to see it. If they are sincere friends, they will comfort and comfort you instead of just sitting there and watching you struggle.
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This article was co-written by Klare Heston, LCSW. Klare Heston is a licensed independent clinical social worker in Ohio. She received her Master of Social Work degree from Virginia Commonwealth University in 1983.
There are 14 references cited in this article that you can view at the bottom of the page.
This article has been viewed 62,089 times.
Crying in front of the person who is yelling at you is truly a pathetic experience. This embarrasses you and can affect your image at work, school or home. Of course, crying is a normal human response, but in some situations, you have to hold back your tears – so what to do? If you’re someone who cries easily, there are a few ways you can manage your emotions (and tears). In addition, you should also learn to take care of yourself after crying a lot. You can also reduce future problems by practicing some conflict resolution methods.
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