How to Know if a Girl is Trying on You Through Texts

If you think that the messages are just funny or sensational, you are wrong! Texting is now almost a part of everyday life, even in romantic relationships. If you’re texting with the girl you like, she may be deliberately putting you in a difficult position to see if you’re worthy of her affection. The good news here is that you can guess if she’s testing you to keep trying to win her over. We’ve put together a list to help you see if a girl is testing you over text.

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She never texted first

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Maybe she wants you to pursue her. Even if she likes you, she may still be waiting for you to text her so she doesn’t seem like she needs you too much. Don’t think she’s mean when she never initiates a conversation, and don’t be discouraged. If you like her, just text her! Once the conversation got into rhythm, who cares who started the conversation first? ^{[1] X Research Source}

It’s nice to have someone interested in you, and if she’s waiting for you to talk first, she probably wants you to be interested.
Don’t think too much. If you want to text her, just text her! Try sending her something fun like a meme or a picture of your cat to start the conversation. ^{[2] X Research Source}

She didn’t text back right away

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It’s possible that she was playing high-ranking game, so she was slow to reply. Although when she sends you a text, you feel the need to reply immediately, but if she doesn’t reply to your text right away, don’t be angry. Maybe she’s trying to act tough to see if you’ll keep texting. If she continues to respond even if it’s a little slow, don’t give up! ^{[3] X Research Sources}

It’s also possible that she’s busy doing something and can’t respond to you right away. If so then you have to be restrained, otherwise you will appear clingy. Give her a chance to respond before making a decision. ^{[4] X Research Sources}

She sends short or curt messages

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Maybe she’s testing your patience. Even if she doesn’t put a lot of effort into texting back, it doesn’t mean that she finds you annoying. Don’t forget that if she still responds to your texts even if she doesn’t have to, it means she still likes texting you. Stay calm and keep talking. Maybe she’s just trying to see how hard you try. ^{[5] X Research Sources}

If every text she sends is just a curt word, then she probably doesn’t care much about you. But if this happens only once in a while, it could be because she’s busy or just because she doesn’t like texting.

She tries to make you feel guilty

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Maybe she’s testing you to see if you have a negative reaction. She may be trying to make you feel guilty for not texting her for so long or complaining that you had to wait all day. Even if she’s only half joking, you shouldn’t apologize. Apologizing for no reason is like accepting being treated unfairly. Instead, just tell her you’re busy or can’t check your phone at the time. ^{[6] X Research Sources}

For example, if she texts you a text like “Where have you been? I’ll wait for your reply.” You can text back something like “I work. How are you today?” or try something bold, like “In class. Do you miss me that much?”

She asked about your ex-girlfriend

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Maybe she likes you that’s why she asked about your old relationships. Girls often want to know about the exes of the guy she wants to get to know. Don’t lie or cheat. Maybe she’s testing how honest you are. Maybe she wants to know why you and your ex broke up to see if you’re a good match for a date. Be honest and open with her. Try not to talk badly about your ex to appear right, as that can make you seem arrogant. ^{[7] X Research Sources}

For example, if she asks, “Why did you two break up?” Say something like, “It just didn’t work out. Now you and her still see each other as friends” instead of “Oh, she is crazy.”

She talked about her ex-boyfriend

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Maybe she’s testing you to see if you’re jealous. Pay attention to what she says, because she may use this to tell you what she doesn’t like about the relationship, especially if she says negative things about her ex-boyfriend. Don’t lose your temper or get jealous. Maybe that’s what she’s testing to see if you’re the possessive or jealous type. Moreover, when getting to know a girl, of course you also need to know about her past relationships. ^{[8] X Research Sources}

For example, if she says, “Ah, I went to see this movie with my ex-boyfriend a while back,” don’t react negatively. Instead, try to just keep the conversation going, such as “Is that so? Good movie?”

She canceled the plan at the last minute

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This can be a test to see if you are ready to make plans for the future. Regardless of whether the cancellation is 5 minutes or 5 days before the date, if she suddenly cancels, don’t get upset or ask why. Be calm and say that you can meet another day. Then you can arrange another date or meet her to let her know that you still want to pursue her. ^{[9] X Research Source}

If she texts you that she can’t make arrangements, say, “It’s okay, we can arrange to see each other soon.”
Note that, if she cancels her date many times, then it is possible that she is not interested in you. Too busy three times, if she cancels more than 3 times then you should probably give up.

She also happened to be attending an event with you

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This could be a coincidence or she is testing your reaction. If you text her and mention a party or event you’re going to, don’t be suspicious if she texts back that she’s coming too. That’s good then! Tell her you’re looking forward to seeing her there. You can even schedule a meeting before and after the event. Use this opportunity to show her that you like her. ^{[10] X Research Source}

For example, if she says there’s a party coming up that you’re also going to, you could say, “Wow! Do you want to buy pizza first?”

She said she’ll meet you at the rendezvous point

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Maybe she’s suggesting you come pick her up. Of course, she might as well tell the truth that she would go there herself. But it’s okay if you just ask to pick her up. Even if she refuses, she will appreciate you. If she agrees, all the better! ^{[11] X Research Source}

For example, if she asks you to meet her at a restaurant, bar, or other event, you could simply answer, “Need a hitchhiking?” That way, you’ll have nothing to lose, but you’ll also be able to show her how magnanimous you are.

She asks you for help

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She may be trying to see if you’re willing to help. If she asks you to help with simple tasks like running errands or moving things, it could mean that she really needs your help or is just testing how enthusiastic you are. It could also be that she wants to spend time with you. Whatever it is, it’s all good! ^{[12] X Research Source}

Advice

In general, you should try to avoid reacting negatively to her messages. Don’t forget that everything can be a test!

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