How to Make the Guy You Like Like You

Unfortunately, love spells aren’t real, so getting someone to return your love sometimes takes a lot of effort. Always be confident and always be yourself – men often like someone who has a personality of their own! You can get to know the other person as a friend, and then gradually talk and spend more time with him or her. Next, ask the person to hang out with the whole group and just the two of you. As he learns more about you, he’ll probably start to have feelings for you, too!

Table of Contents

Become a friend

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Always feel confident and comfortable around that person. When you’re in love with someone, it’s certainly hard not to get too enthusiastic in front of them, but try to stay calm and remember that he’s just a normal guy. Don’t be afraid to make eye contact and smile at the person. ^{[1] X Research Source}

However, don’t look so obvious! If you keep staring, he will get annoyed. In general, you should switch your gaze after 4-5 seconds.

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Highlight your interests and hobbies to showcase your unique personality. It’s perfectly normal for you to have your own opinion and like anything you’re passionate about, even if you don’t feel like it’s “cool”. Don’t pretend to care about things you don’t like just to impress someone. Men can see your fakeness. ^{[2] X Research Source}

You can completely make a different comment or disagree with the guy you like. When discussing a topic in class, don’t be afraid to speak your mind. That will make you opinionated and very interesting.

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Be friendly with his or her friends. Maybe the guy you like will also like you if his friends find you interesting. Don’t be afraid to chat with them in class, in the hallway, at lunchtime, or during after-school activities. Find out what their interests are, exchange homework and mention things in common, such as favorite books or movies. ^{[3] X Research Sources}

When you make friends with someone, you often find a common interest and start a conversation about it. Be friendly, smile and ask questions about them.

Warning: Be careful not to accidentally flirt with your partner’s friends. That could create a misunderstanding or even cause one of his or her friends to have a crush on you!

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Show off your sense of humor and fun person. Be ready to take chances and do new things, even when you feel scared or nervous. Don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself or say funny things in front of the guy you like. The sense of humor plus the mischievous cuteness is really attractive! ^{[4] X Research Sources}

For example, if your teacher needs someone to volunteer for an activity in class, don’t be afraid to do it in front of the whole class.
If you do something that embarrasses you, laugh it off and make it a funny story. This is a way to show that you are comfortable with yourself.

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Ask open-ended questions to get to know the person better. Talking about yourself is easy, but when you want to get to know someone, ask open-ended questions. Open-ended questions often give you a more detailed “yes” or “no” answer and encourage others to share about themselves! Try the following questions: ^{[5] X Research Sources}

What do you think about the book we have to read in English class?
How does it feel to have to practice football for hours during the summer?
What do you like to do on weekends?
What TV show do you like right now?

Tip: Don’t use your phone when you’re with your partner. In an age where everyone is on their phone, going away from your phone so you can focus on what your partner has to say is a great way to show your affection.

Flirting and spending time together

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Compliment his personality, intelligence, and looks. Compliments are a way to show you care. Simply giving a short, direct compliment is enough. The person will say “thank you” or smile at you. ^{[6] X Research Source}

For example, you could say, “You did a great job with your class presentation today.”
To compliment your crush’s looks, simply say, “Your new hairstyle looks great,” or “That coat brings out the color of your eyes.”
For a little extra flirt, you can say “You always know how to make me laugh!”

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Break the intimacy barrier to see how your partner reacts. Try touching the person delicately, such as touching his arm or shoulder, both ways to guess his feelings for you. If he smiles and doesn’t shy away, it means he’s comfortable with your intimacy. If he keeps his distance, the other person may not be enjoying this closeness yet. ^{[7] X Research Sources}

Gentle touches, even friendly ones, can help the two of you become closer

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Ask for his phone number and text him to chat more after school. With the first message, you can compose something like “Hi Nam, this is Mai. What are you doing?” To start a conversation, you can ask her how she thought about class that day, or if she did her homework, or what she plans to do that night. ^{[8] X Research Sources}

If he responds briefly or doesn’t respond, you shouldn’t send multiple texts in a row. Leave it on until the person texts you or you have a good reason to keep texting.

Tip: If you feel shy about asking for his phone number, use an excuse to swap assignments. You can say “Can you give me your phone number? That way, I can ask you some questions while doing your homework.”

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Encourage the person and remember important information. Pay attention to milestones in your partner’s life, like an important exam, sports match or competition, or something to look forward to like a vacation. Mention these things when you meet him. If you have his phone number, you can send a message of encouragement. ^{[9] X Research Source}

For example, you could text “Good luck in tomorrow’s game!”
Ask them about important events. For example, try asking, “I hope you had an interesting game last weekend. How was it that day?”
Before the exam, you can write a message “Good luck on your exam! I know you can do it.”

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Schedule tutoring so you can meet in private. You can both study together when there’s free time or after school at one’s home, at a coffee shop or library. Text or meet your crush after school to schedule tutoring. Try to be relaxed and comfortable when asking, even if you feel very nervous. ^{[10] X Research Source}

You could say, “Hey, do you want to study with me on Wednesday to prepare for the History test?”
If the person agrees, the next thing is the time and place to meet. If the person refuses, you don’t have to worry about it. Perhaps they are busy or have no intention of reviewing.
The same goes for other activities outside of the classroom. Joint activities such as singing, acting, sports or team activities all give you the opportunity to meet to practice or plan together.

Countinues forward

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Text your crush after a date to guess how they’re feeling. This is a great way to try it out after you’ve met the guy you like, whether it’s in a group study together or simply being at the same event. Don’t send a text right after you’ve met the person – instead, wait 24 hours so you don’t sound too warm. ^{[12] X Research Source}

You can send a text with something like, “It was great to see you last night. I hope you had a good time.”
Or, you can be blunt like, “I had so much fun hanging out with you this past weekend. Hopefully we will have another outing soon!”

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Say you enjoy being with that person. This is less risky than saying “I like you”. This is both a clever compliment and a way to show your love for that person. No one is bothered to hear others say they enjoy their presence! ^{[13] X Research Source}

After a date, simply say, “Today was fun. I love being with you” and smiled.
If the person asks you out on a date, you can say, “This is very interesting. I would love to hang out with you.”
You can also send a brief message saying, “I enjoyed studying with you the other day.”

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Ask that person out so the two of you can get closer. If the person agrees to spend time with you and enjoys being with you, continue to see him or her and talk regularly. Maybe he’ll come and ask you out before you even realize how close you two are. ^{[14] X Research Source}

Watch carefully to see if the person is flirting. Maybe he is regularly meeting many people who also have feelings for him. You need to protect your heart and don’t put yourself in a situation where you want to pursue others in vain. If you feel that he’s not serious, stop and wait to see if he pursues you. If the person doesn’t, you should take this as a sign to give up.

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Be patient and don’t stress if things seem to be going very slowly. Remember that getting to know the guy you like and determining if he has feelings for you will take a few weeks or so. People often need time to develop romantic feelings. Focus on being his friend and stay positive. ^{[15] X Research Source}

If you’re impatient and need to express your feelings to your partner to know how they feel, you can totally do it. Be prepared to receive his or her reaction, be it positive or negative.

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Always remember your worth no matter what happens. The hope is that after a few weeks or months of spending time together, the guy you like has feelings for you and the two of you can move on to a more serious relationship. However, if this does not happen, remember that you, your personality, and your appearance are not to blame. Sometimes it’s simply that two people are not meant for each other for no reason at all. ^{[16] X Research Source}

If your feelings aren’t reciprocated, take a few weeks to really focus on yourself, your hobbies, and your friends. You are completely allowed to feel sadness and in time, you will also return to your normal emotions.

Advice

Don’t be afraid to take the initiative to ask a guy you like to hang out with or say you like him! You don’t have to wait for the person to take the initiative first.
Remember that you don’t always have to make time for that person. If you have other plans or friends, you will show others that you are a very interesting person.

Steps

Become a friend

Flirting and spending time together

Countinues forward

Advice

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