13 easy ways to make your boyfriend happy over texting

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This article was co-written by John Keegan. John Keegan is a New York-based marriage and love expert and motivational speaker. He runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his knowledge of marriage and love, attraction and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and gives seminars on marriage and love internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York and Men’s Health.

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You may wish you could be with your boyfriend every second of every minute, but it’s inevitable that the two of you have to be apart. Fortunately, texting can be a fun way to stay emotionally fresh until the next time you meet up. Text flirting is an art, but we’ve got plenty of tips to help you cheer up your boyfriend every time he sees your name on the screen.

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Send him a photo.

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Take a picture of anything around you. Of course, selfies are always effective, especially if you’re doing a cute hairstyle or shopping for a nice outfit, but you should also turn your lens outside every once in a while. Show him things like your neighbor’s cute cat, a nice view from your lunch date, or a cool piece of street art you just saw on your way to meet a friend. ^{[1] X Research Source}

Not only will this get you started, it will also show him the interesting things around you – and this will make him want to be with you even more!

Praise him.

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Mention something you really like about him. If you want a smile on your boyfriend’s face, surprise him with a surprise compliment. For a more personal feel, choose something specific and truly unique about him.

Flirting with him with a compliment about his looks, such as “The shirt you wore today shows off your toned arms! Look how hard he worked out at the gym! You look great.”
Mention his softer side with a personality compliment. Say something like, “I always have a way of comforting you when you’re sad. How do you know what to say?”

Let him know when something reminds you of him.

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Let him know that he is always on your mind. Ever wonder if he thinks about you when you’re apart? Maybe he’s wondering the same thing. The next time something reminds you of him, no matter how trivial, pick up your phone and send him a quick text!

If you’re playing a song that reminds him of him, send him the link and a simple message like “Is that us?”
If you pass by a restaurant you’ve both been to, send him a photo and text that says, “What a great night! I’ll go there someday!”
Make him laugh by reminding him of an insider joke, like sending him a picture of a frog with the caption, “Oh my gosh, that’s the singer we heard at the bar last night. there!”

Ask questions to get him to open up about himself.

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Take advantage of the messages to get to know each other more. Give your boyfriend a chance to talk about himself so he feels cared for and valued. Start the conversation by asking about his day, asking a few questions from time to time to keep the conversation going. Just remember not to ask a bunch of questions so the conversation doesn’t turn into an interrogation.

Ask him about fond childhood memories, or even just what he likes to eat for lunch – anything that prompts him to talk about himself will do.
Joke a little bit with trivial questions that force him to choose, such as “If you could only listen to one band for the rest of your life, which band would you choose?” or “Add pineapple to your pizza, like it or not?”

Have him recommend you something.

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Let him know you value his opinion. Asking your boyfriend to help you decide on something is a subtle compliment that he has an eye for taste. Sounds really good, doesn’t it? Remember to follow his choice. He will be upset if you consult him and then do the opposite! ^{[2] X Research Source}

For example, you could send a photo of two shirts and ask him which one you should wear.
Looking for something new to listen to? Ask him to recommend one of his favorite albums!

Start with something interesting.

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Don’t use boring opening sentences like “Brother” or “What are you doing?” These greetings sound like you are sitting sad with nothing to do. Instead, start right off with something spontaneous and fun – like you’re excited to share it with him!

Try attracting him with a curious “bait” like “I can’t believe you just saw someone today!” or “Do you know what happened in math class today?”
You can also reiterate your last conversation with him with something like, “Remember when we talked about Greek food the other day? I just found a place where I can try it this weekend.”

Tell him about something that happened to you during the day.

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Make him feel like he’s always there for you. It doesn’t have to be anything new – just that you share something that makes him feel a part of your life. As the conversation goes on, you can change your flirty tone a bit to get him nervous.

For example, you could text him, “My new co-worker has a super annoying habit,” or “I just saw a great movie today that I thought you’d like.”

Laugh when he jokes.

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A simple “haha” or smiley face can also make him smile. Who doesn’t love a response, so if your boyfriend is joking, take a few seconds to show him you like his wit – try texting “haha haha”, “laughing!” or a row of smileys.

Laughing when someone jokes is a classic flirt, just bring this trick into the digital age!

Share with him about something that interests you.

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Give him a glimpse of your world. Don’t think you need to spend the entire conversation focusing on him. If there is an interesting story that you are quite knowledgeable about, do not hesitate to tell it! Enthusiasm is contagious when people share their passions, so let him know why you find it so interesting.

For example, if you are passionate about paleontology and have just read an article about a newly discovered dinosaur species, send it to him! If your boyfriend doesn’t know much about it, give him a bit of context, such as “This is the first time they’ve found a new fossil in over 50 years!”

Tease him a bit.

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Try teasing him, but be a little subtle. Most guys understand that girls teasing them means liking them, but be careful with this. Don’t joke about anything that might be sensitive to him. Choose fun and positive things – in the end your goal is still to flirt with him!

One of the best pranks is to focus on one of the other’s strengths. If your boyfriend is a great basketball player, for example, you could say, “Let’s go to the gym tomorrow. I’ll show you how to hit the 3-pointer!”

Share interesting dating ideas.

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Share with your boyfriend your ideas for activities you can both do together. Make him eager to see you again by letting him know where you’d like to go and do next time. Not only will this relieve your boyfriend of the pressure of coming up with new date ideas, but it will also let him know what you like. More than that, it also shows him that you are looking forward to seeing him again soon.

If you hear there’s a band playing in town, send him the link to the event and text him, “I’m planning to buy tickets to this show. Do you want to go?”

Be with him when he’s having a bad day.

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Instead of trying to come up with solutions; Please listen to him. We all have bad luck from time to time. If you know he just had a bad day at work, if he’s not feeling well, or if he’s under a lot of pressure, let him know you care. Listen if he wants to talk, but don’t force him if he doesn’t want to. Either way, let him know you’re there for him and ask what you can do to make him feel better.

Don’t give him a bunch of suggestions on what to do, unless he’s asking for your advice. Sometimes all one needs is a listener to relieve the pressure.

Loosen up a bit.

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Increase the heat if both are comfortable. You don’t always have to be shy about flirting over text with your boyfriend. If there’s something hot on your mind, hint to him if he’ll respond. Sending things like a flirty symbol or a song with erotic lyrics can be a great way to make a conversation more relaxed and informal. You can also simply tell him what you’re thinking, like, “I’ve been thinking about you all day. Last night was amazing!”

There are also people who don’t like sexually explicit messages, so it’s okay if one of you doesn’t enjoy the idea of “slutty” talk or sexually suggestive images. If you like, you can flirt when you see each other! ^{[3] X Research Sources}

Advice

Try to be playful, joking around most of the time – focus on flirting, humor, and fun.
Generally, you should avoid controversial topics like politics or religion when texting. If you’re going to talk about these topics, it’s best to wait until you’ve met each other to gauge the other’s reaction.
Write a short message. If there’s something that requires more than a few sentences, ask your boyfriend to call or say you’ll explain more when you meet him.
Don’t dwell on one topic for too long. Change it up a bit from time to time so you don’t get bored.
Drop emojis to liven up your messages, but don’t overdo it.

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